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word women wednesday & a healed marriage

 

Happy Word Women Wednesday to all you beautiful women! The birds are singing songs of praise already and it is still dark outside. Singing in the dark….hhuumm. Please open your hearts to sweet Wendy. I met her through Sibi’s post last Wednesday.  Wendy has a heart to share her testimony of how God healed their marriage.  Won’t you please show her some love and above all offer thanks to the ONEthe only ONE who can truly heal hearts yes?:) You can visit Wendy @ her blog A Daily Dose of  Del Signore **  I apologize for the layout of this post.  I copied it and every time I save it it runs sentences together etc…grateful for crazy computers:)

Have you ever had one of those days that a million thoughts are floating through your mind? The things you want to say, but don’t have the courage to display for the world? You worry about who will read it or if they will judge you. Then again, you are certain there will be a couple who do! There are some things others desperately need to hear, but you’re not sure you are actually brave enough to spell it out to them.
I’m having one of those days…..
I see people around me letting their marriages fall apart. They do absolutely nothing to save them. Or maybe they don’t know where to start. Maybe they feel hopeless and think their specific situation is beyond repair. My heart hurts for these people because it doesn’t have to be this way.
“For nothing is impossible with God”
~ Luke 1:37


I’ve hinted of the fact that Ryan and I are building an amazing testimony of how the Lord has worked miracles in our lives, individually and together. He’s not even close to being done! Every day God shows us something new in our marriage and in ourselves. What I want you to see is the progress we have made.
If I told you we almost called it quits, would you believe we’ve made it this far?
To be honest with you, there were times I just knew we wouldn’t make it.
God showed me how wrong I was.
The Lord wanted nothing more than to see our marriage work.
That’s how He designed it!
In the past (before we let God have control of our marriage) I tried to “fix” Ryan’s problems. Somehow or another, I thought I knew what was best for him. Did I stop to look at anything wrong with myself?
Heck, no! I was as close to perfect as it got! <– You may insert as much sarcasm as possible here!
First of all, shame on me! The things I was working on changing in my husband were the things that made him who he was. He is such a wonderful, good hearted man. What the heck was wrong with me???
Second, God doesn’t make mistakes and He sure didn’t start with my husband!
I’m not saying Ryan was perfect in this whole equation, but I wasn’t making anything easy on us either!
We didn’t stop to embrace what made us amazing together. We just saw the little flaws….
We didn’t stop to think about the promises we made to each other and to God.
We had a non-traditional family, a baby, and loads of stress piling up from every angle. It seemed like every time we turned around there was something else putting a strain on our marriage (Have you seen our renovation struggles? Ha!).
In all seriousness, I honestly believe we have been through more marital strain in our almost four years of marriage than your average ten year old marriage.
So what did we do? We kept on trying to fix things ourselves and keep everything hush-hush from our family and friends. I tried to medicate my problems away with hormones designed to fix hormones. I read book after book that guaranteed a way to fix our marriage. I talked until I was hoarse about what each expert said and what we should be doing.
Looking back, all I can say is, “What a joke!!!!”
All this led to was frustration when it didn’t work.
Guys, I wasn’t raised this way!
One thing my mother always taught me was to turn things over to the Lord.
Why couldn’t I do this????
It’s such a no brainer, simple concept.
Did I not trust the God that ensured my very own salvation to be able to save my marriage?
To this day, I cannot explain what held me back.

I was such a fool!

Looking back now, there was a specific breaking point for us.
There came a time that two of the closest people to us saw what we had kept hidden.
These people could have helped us long ago had we just asked for it.
Not only did they give us methods to cope with some of the strain of outside forces, but they shared the most important coping method:
Allowing God to come into our lives and marriage!

Ryan and I both were Christians already, but we chose right then and there to give all of our worries, issues, and struggles to God.
That right there is what it’s all about!
The weight of the world was lifted from our shoulders.
God will provide every single time!


He surrounded us with His unconditional love and took care of us.
He healed our hearts, strengthed the bond between us, and showed us a much better way to live. 

The first thing I noticed was that God opened my eyes to my own faults and gave me a better heart to accept and truly love my husband. I walked away from all self-help books but one ~ The Bible. I stopped all medications and low and behold, my hormones acted better than they had since I was a teen! I prayed before I talked about touchy subjects between us.
I am so thankful we traveled this road together. I wouldn’t change a thing about it because I am here now telling you how great my God is.

I have come back to the unpublished version of this post several times. The whole time I prayed that God would give me strength to share this with you all. Not to brag at all, but to give hope. I know that if I am able to hit “Publish Post” on here, I can maybe inspire someone to stick it out. Ryan and I didn’t have the model marriage, but we make it work every single day. God is still working with us. We are very far from being “done”.
God has made it all possible!
The biggest thing I have learned through this process is that God has shown me love and mercy when I least deserve it. It never ceases to amaze me. I have done so much wrong, He forgave it all.

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If you have some words of hope, encouragement or just a story to share please link your exact URL below. I will leave the linky open until Thursday @ 11:59 pm central.
Please go visit each other and leave a word or two to sharpen others would you?:) and if you will leave a link back to the House of Belonging.  Thank you so much sweet, sweet friends!

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budding wood

 

I walked under and my eyes turned heavenward…and in that moment His handiwork drew a word picture on my heart… written in that budding tree.

wood…how does something so soft and pliable push through that seemingly unbending surface? It sits idle for the winter months…unseen activity  One would think was dead.  no life.  but with increasing Sonshine stimulating growth.

for all the seasons of my heart…that seem to go from Ur to Haran and down into Egypt storing up all the words…building altars only to come

to

a place that the words cannot be contained anymore…come budding forth culminating in a clump that needs constant care to form into real living sentences that breathe…that breathe life - valuejoydaughtershippraise …to be able to take the hardness of wandering in the wilderness for years to shape these into whole bites for the chewing and digesting…so that my soul no longer lives deaf to starving calls crying out around the world.

 

and Jesus said to herto meDid I not say to you, if you believe, you will see the glory of God?” Not just so I can speak but that

He can speak to me…to us from the heart of the fire…burning through the hardness of wood so that the harvestone little bud turns to 1000…so

How shall the soul in us longer live
Deaf to their starving call,
For whom the blood of the Lord was shed,
And His body broken to give them. bread,
If we eat our morsel alone!”

Let’s be patient and trust that the treasure we look for is hidden in the ground on which we stand.— Henri J. M. Nouwen

I am so excited about She Speaks Conference!  It is a conference for women’s heart.  I think of Romans 8:30 says….Bring them into the calling that You have predestined for them.  He has a calling for each one of us and I am excited to begin this journey of creating the art that He has placed with my heart.  I also long to help others fulfill their calling as well. SO – please pray about coming.  Click here to find out more information on the She Speaks Conference to learn more about women connecting the hearts of women to the heart of our Father God and that your heart is to serve Him and His daughters, as He leads.
She Speaks Conference 2011

to ask people to play.
and if they deny you….
to wait a bit,
and then ask again.

 

and if they deny you again….
don’t take it personally.
wait.
and ask again….:)...lizsong


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word women wednesday & shelter of story linkup

We have been having technical issues with our theme so I am just going to give a little blurb on what God is doing in my heart and it involves all of you.  I don’t have all the kinks ironed out yet but here is the beginning…

shelter of story

Shelter of Story is going to be a traveling book that will come to you upon linking up here.

Guidelines are coming by the weekend.

Nikki has a button that you can put in your blog post when you linkup to receive the book.  The code is on the Shelter of Story

page.

 

I envision this book being used by God to help cheer women on to whole-souled-ness…real, raw, messy and vulnerable story told by brave women who have been there and back only by the grace of God there go I…kinda book.  written by You for them…

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I copied my Warrior Prayer book and am all set for Friday! are you?  If not, click here to join us in 21 Days of Praying for Sons .

 

Please email me if you have ANY questions. I know it is vague at the moment but I promise to work today and tomorrow and put more information out so we can get a move on OK?  love you much…

A linky is open if you would love to share any words today.  Just link up your exact URL to your post and link back to House of Belonging somewhere so we can find each other. Praying your day be filled with the child like wonder of Jesus.

XO,


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word women wednesday w/ farmgirl paints & linkup

I’d pretty much sworn off guest posting.  It’s a lot of extra work and it feels like no one really reads them.  When I go to someone’s blog honestly I go to read what they have to say.  So when I was asked recently to write something for Tiffani’s Word-Women Wednesday’s I was surprised at how quickly I said YES.  There has been something on my heart for a long time now and it just seemed a good fit.

This is kind of a touchy topic.  Have you noticed lately a complete gray area with right and wrong? No one seems willing to stand up for what they believe in anymore.  I’m not really sure people even know what they believe in.  If you are a Christian you are Christ’s follower.  We follow his example.  He didn’t just choose to be around godly people, actually he picked some pretty flawed men to be in his posse, BUT that didn’t mean that he became like them.  We are supposed to stand apart, to be different.  We are called as his followers to be salt and light.  There should be something so unique and special about our walk that people are drawn to us and ultimately to HIM.  This doesn’t mean we walk around like religious zealots pushing our views down people’s throats.  It just means that we do as he taught us in his word and know what we believe as believers.  Our lives might be the only Bible others ever read, but do we know what the actual Bible says?  It’s very clear, very straight to the point…no gray.

I’ve just been saddened lately.  It seems that everywhere I look sin has become the norm…accepted, applauded even.  At church a few weeks ago our pastor showed a youtube video of a middle eastern leader proclaiming his love for the Lord.  He was boldly declaring that Jesus was the way, the only way and that he was willing to die for his faith.  Recently he did die.  He gave his life to proclaim his faith.

As I watched that video anger started to build in me.  This man actually died for standing apart,  for declaring what’s right and we can’t even chance a cold shoulder or risk losing a blog follower for fear of rejection.  We’ve become afraid to speak truth.  We’ve become gray.  Where’s the black and white??  I want absolutes.  I want to boldly declare my faith and not care if someone agrees with me or not.  It’s not a popularity contest.  We do have enemies.  The enemy is out to steal, kill and destroy.  Are you willing to pick a side and defend what the Bible says?  Do you know even know which side of the fence you are on in this monotone world??  There are sides.  This is a fallen world.  When I actually stand before him someday (and we ALL will) I want him to say well done thou good and faithful servant.  I know I’m not perfect.  I’m so very flawed just like those disciples, but with all my heart I hope to hear those words.  The Apostle Paul said it best in 2 Timothy 4…

1 I give you a command in the sight of God and Christ Jesus. Christ will judge the living and the dead. Because he and his kingdom are coming, here is the command I give you.
2 Preach the word. Be ready to serve God in good times and bad. Correct people’s mistakes. Warn them. Cheer them up with words of hope. Be very patient as you do these things. Teach them carefully.
3 The time will come when people won’t put up with true teaching. Instead, they will try to satisfy their own longings. They will gather a large number of teachers around them. The teachers will say what the people want to hear.
4 The people will turn their ears away from the truth. They will turn to stories that aren’t completely true.
5 But I want you to keep your head no matter what happens. Don’t give up when times are hard. Work to spread the good news. Do everything God has given you to do.
6 I am already being poured out like a drink offering. The time has come for me to leave.
7 I have fought the good fight. I have finished the race. I have kept the faith.
8 Now there is a crown waiting for me. It is given to those who are right with God. The Lord, who judges fairly, will give it to me on the day he returns. He will not give it only to me. He will also give it to all those who are longing for him to return.

 

 

Becky Strahle
www.farmgirlpaints.blogspot.com
www.etsy.com/shop/farmgirlpaints

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ending with this…this is a charge from His word I feel…how about you.  Time to examine my heart.

Lord of immortality, before whom angels bow and archangels veil their faces, enable me to serve Thee with reverence and godly fear. Thou who art Spirit and requirest truth in the inward parts, help me to worship Thee in spirit and in truth. Thou who art righteous, let me not harbour sin in my heart, or indulge a worldly temper, or seek satisfaction in things that perish.

I hasten towards an hour when earthly pursuits and possessions will appear vain, when it will be indifferent whether I have been rich or poor, successful or disappointed, admired or despised. But it will be of eternal moment that I have mourned for sin, hungered and thirsted after righteousness, loved the Lord Jesus in sincerity, gloried in His cross. May these objects engross my chief solicitude! Produce in me those principles and dispositions that make Thy service perfect freedom.

Expel from my mind all sinful fear and shame, so that with firmness and courage I may confess the Redeemer before men, go forth with Him hearing His reproach, be zealous with His knowledge, be filled with His wisdom, walk with His circumspection, ask counsel of Him in all things, repair to the Scriptures for His orders, stay my mind on His peace, knowing that nothing can befall me without His permission, appointment and administration.

.. from puritan prayers

Please share a button and linkup the exact URL. I will leave the linkup open until  3/25/2011 11:59 PM and as we visit today let’s think upon the words shared by Becki and from those who have faithfully run the race and won by standing firm in their faith.  May we seek to emulate them. I love you all and a deep thank you to Becki for her bravery and sharing her own struggle and desire to stand firm and follow Him in a country that is much like 2 Timothy.  May our hearts break to be the carriers of living seed to all who are hurting.


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dear monday…2 series & a project…a winner


Plough deep in us, great Lord, heavenly husbandman, that our being may be a tilled field, the roots of grace spreading far and wide, until Thou alone art seen in us, Thy beauty golden like summer harvest, Thy fruitfulness as autumn plenty…from valley of vision puritan prayers


a-ladys-findings:

 

As I lay here being receptive to His grace I am asking “how do I begin to weave this together in story so that I can pick beauty from the harvest for myself and even more so… for others?” O Daddy we come with buckets in hands swinging to pick the first fruits from your fields. Ever so humbly I step and share the ground layout with you..as our husbandman takes us from this crossroad to the end of our journey time.

I am going to introduce two series & one Project here at The House of Belonging.

  • The first series I will introduce tomorrow. It will be once a week.  It will have some helpful printable’s and such along the way.  As we learn to live in the depths but see You in the heights as we seek You for whole-souled-ness.

  • Not all marriages are or can be… restored …then what? It maybe a once a month or bi/weekly to start out.  It will start out with personal history, books and people giving a little ground work to the present day.  With as much privacy as I can so it will mostly be from my perspective.  Much of the whole-souled-ness work will then go into the marriage series.

  • The third project…not so much a series, will be placed however God leads.  I am a little girl who has a secret that I can’t wait to share.  I will spill the beans next Wednesday:)

This will also benefit women who yearn for the deep waters of whole-souled-ness.

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Word women Wednesday with Becky@Farmgirl Paints.  Have you checked out her cuffs?  I keep thinking when I can I’d like to have one that says Word woman or jumping naked…what would you like yours to say? Don’t forget we will also have a linkup.  A place to share your heart and art in the form of a post ( maybe a hint for a writing prompt?) that will light a fire under the souls of women to walk in their calling.  I think Miss Becky’s words will light a fire in your heart!

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**I will attach the winner of the Word women sign later this afternoon.  I’m still in the hospital and my daughter is the smart one so she is going to do it for me on her lunch hour**

a prayer for us…May our desires be enlarged and our hopes emboldened, that we may honour Thee by our entire dependency and the greatness of our expectation…valley of vision

XO,

 

 

 

photo source here

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