Word women wednesday & parenting linkup

I first connected with Mindy over her post My Ten Year Anniversary with God over at (in)courage.  Her words resonated with my heart and I immediately contacted her.  She is a woman who allows God to pursue her and “she can testify that all of His gifts are indeed GOOD, even though they aren’t always in pretty packages. In fact, I have learned quite a bit through suffering, maybe even more than any other way.”  I am excited for you to meet her.  Without further adieu…

Freedom in Parenting

Hindsight is a funny thing.  It gives perspective that can be found in no other way.

When my first-born child was born.  I was terrified.  My hormones were so out of whack and I was too busy adjusting and crying to realize how scared I was, but I can see it looking back.

I was scared to death that my kids would have to go through some of the things that I did. I wanted to create a perfect world for them and I was sure that if I just tried hard enough and got enough information, than I could do just that.

It started with whether or not to let Dylan cry it out.  Would I scar him for life if I let him cry? Would he have this feeling of deep insecurity and mistrust if I didn’t comfort him immediately?   And then it was environment, would he be influenced down a dark path if I let him be around certain types of people and/or watch certain shows? Education, would I be able to provide for him so that one day he could succeed in this dog eat dog world? And of course there’s salvation,would he trust Jesus with his heart or would I screw him up so badly that He never wanted anything to do with Jesus? Would being a pastor’s kid mess him up?  What foods do I feed him to make sure he doesn’t struggle with childhood obesity? What kind of kids do I let him hang around? Image is a big one too. How do I make him do the right thing and act the right way when we are around other people? Do they think I am am horrible mom because he wouldn’t give them a high five? What if he disobeys me in front of the other moms?

It’s insanity the things that go through your head when you are a new mom.  And it’s enough to cause a person to parent paralyzed.  That’s what I used to do.

I was always, always, always thinking of the affect of everything I did or said.  I wanted perfect kids and a perfect family. It didn’t take long to realize that I was the biggest obstacle.  Jason was always so laid back about the way we did things with our kids and I didn’t understand why he wasn’t stressed out like I was!!  Didn’t he realize the weight of being a parent?? Didn’t he know we only had 18 years or so to get this RIGHT?!

I read every single parenting book out there.

Over the course of the years, and I can’t exactly pin point the moment, God began to free me of those fears and insecurities.  I started asking God how I should pray for my kids, and somewhere along the way, I realized that the best way to parent my kids was how God was parenting me. The books I had read were good, but the best influence I had in my life was God the father himself.

He speaks truths over me.  He tells me things like, “I have loved you with an everlasting love,” “I have a future and a hope for you,” “do not be afraid, I am with you,” “nothing you ever do could separate you from my love,” and “come to me when you are tired and weary and I will give you rest.”  He also gives me free will to make decisions.  Sometimes, when I make the wrong decisions, He lets the consequences of my actions play out.  Sometimes He steps in and protects me from my actions.  Always, He covers me with His grace, He never shames me.  He never holds my mistakes over my head.  He forgives me constantly.  He loves me when no-one else does.

So I started transferring these things over to my kids. I have had people tell me on numerous occasions that, “I am so calm.”  And I have to give all the glory to God.  When my kids do silly things, I deal with it, and move on.  It’s not some huge surprise to me that they act like kids and have to be corrected frequently.

God also has told me to teach them His ways.  So I am doing that. And because I know my God can be trusted and that He loves me, I am resting in the fact that He will take care of the “outcome.” He loves my kids more than I do and for some reason, unbeknownst to me, He has given Jason and I the privilege of raising them. All I can do is be faithful to what He can commands of me and take rest in His sovereignty over the rest.

This gives me freedom and peace and I am so thankful for the drastic change God has made in my life! And my kids are still so young, so I get to have many years of resting in His truth’s! Hallelujah! Thank you Jesus.  YOU ALONE are mighty to save. You are such a compassionate God who has heard my cries. I love you and praise you!


Please go over and visit Mindy @ Very Unfinished Product and let’s show her some word women love:)

Mindy also started a linkup called In my Shoes and Mindy’s book list is worth your time to check out.  Well – what do you think?  Good words…please feel free to share your input on parenting in the comments below and/or linkup a post on parenting ( words, poem, pictures, a craft…whatever is related to being a parent or wanting to be;)

Just put the direct URL in and that’s it. If you would so kindly link back to Word woman Wednesday… that would be an easy way for us all to find each other. Also - Erin over @ ItsGrace gets us all together on Thursday for Mama’s Heart if you would like to link your parenting post over there tomorrow?

Thank you to each one of you for baring your hearts here each Wednesday. Next Wednesdays prompt is Zephaniah 3:17!!!

The LORD your God is with you,
the Mighty Warrior who saves.
He will take great delight in you;
in his love he will no longer rebuke you,
but will rejoice over you with singing.”

Lots of opportunity for inspiration!



Mindy Carlettini - Wow. Thank you so much for your kind words Tiffini! I really appreciate it.


Erin @ It's Gra - What a beautiful post! I can certainly relate to all those new mom questions and worries. It's amazing how much more relaxing parenting becomes after you've had more than 1 kid.

I love how God works on our hearts as parents by being a loving Father to us..so much love, grace, tenderness..

Thanks for mentioning my link up..hope we get some new mama's tomorrow!!



Green, Yellow and Teddy-Teddy | - [...] I’m linking up with Tiffini from “House of Belonging” for “Word Women Wednesday”. [...]

eileen - I can so relate to that fear of being a parent for the first time! I can remember when my son came home from the hospital…I finally felt like an adult. I had this huge responsibility in my life. For the first few days it took both me and my husband just to change a diaper. We were so intimidated by our little, delicate bundle of joy!

LLH Designs - You've done it again, Tiff! Just when I think I have nothing to say, you make me dig a little deeper! I love this post of yours today. I have much to learn from you. And am SO THANKFUL for all that you are!



Alicia @ La Famille - beautiful words about being a mama :) i'm coming over from "between you & me" and i'm gonna link up too :)

Glenda Childers - I was just like this . . . always making sure my actions were the best for my kids and taking the blame when things went wrong. It took a dear friend to point out that this was co-dependency and I was not helping my kids at all. I really had to change the way I thought . . . and my kids turned out great :).

So glad I listened.

This is a beautifully written and inspiring post.



Robyn Q - Man! This sums it up for me! "…somewhere along the way, I realized that the best way to parent my kids was how God was parenting me." Great stuff. Parenting is hard work. My mother told me once that it should be the most natural thing in the world. It's not for me. I want it to be…but so many aspects I stumble. I am starting to realize the more we live aware of God's presence, the more we BELIEVE who He says we are, the more we can graciously parent with His heart.

Good stuff. Keeps me thinking, thank you!

Abby - This is beautiful and spoke more to me than just about anything I have read recently, Mindy. Honestly, thank you so much…i want to print this out and come back to it–it echoes where He's brought me and yet challenges too–so,so,so good!

Tiffini, you are doing something special here on Wednesdays {and all the time!} love you!

Mindy Carlettini - Thank you to everyone for the encouragement!

Dear monday: why do you blog?


Why do you blog?  I know…deep question right?  One that I am really digging deep to answer.  Asking your help at the end…

photo source here

Here are TWO questions I am asking.

Why did I start blogging

I started this last October to just start writing my heart about the changes that God  was doing in my life.  Laying down the heart words on paper.  I have always journaled but the problem is when I went back to read the journals…10 years later I am still in many of the same situations. Not much change.  That is a big problem.  for me.  I am walking the middle right now waiting for direction on which way to go … right or left.

Warning: Vulnerable Confession!

I have NO background in writing, crafting, design, photography anything. I didn’t even finish high school.  I was married at 16 and had my first three children by the time I was 22. I did later go back to get my GED.  That being said – I’ve been a stay at home mom since I was 16.  So 26 years.  I am blogging for ME first…to sort myself out…HA!   I would love to write some kind of book.    I have a few ideas.  I will need an editor as you all know I don’t know the grammer rules etc.  I just write how I talk….lol?  works for me but not so much for a book:)

It has been 5 months?  now what?  what is my niche?  I really want to know!

I have no idea. I know – not a good answer but an honest one.  I am definitely a beauty hunter this I know.  My heart is deep and complicated.  I love to write the heart dialogue down and I look for God to answer them.  I am wanting to find out who I am, my purpose and how to live securely and …….I have a heart for women who’s hearts are hemorrhaging, women in abusive relationships and are locked in prisons of fear and do not know how and/or do not have the tools and support to live life fully. How to take care of themselves and their children. How to find healing for the lies that were laid down with the wounds.

I do enjoy decorating, cooking and all of the things that encompass being a woman.  Just not sure what the blog should be about.  Maybe it can be all these things… I just don’t know.


this is what has been on my heart for my blog…His blog really.  I really do pray very much about this blog and the direction He wants me to take it.  He initiated this and I am want to follow hard after it.  I think of you all often as I write.  Three of my five children are grown.  The younger two are 16 & 11 and I feel it is time.  This last 10-11 years have been tumultuous to say the least. Lots of changes.  If I’m going to write a different future I am going to have to get off the fence and go right or left.  I don’t want to look back in 10 more years and STILL see the same thing.  It is like deep dreams that I have buried and or never believed inare now saying ” It is time” .


What is your niche? do you know?  how did you know?

Why do you blog? Honestly?

I would love ANY constructive criticism on what you all may see as my niche.  What I might do away with and what I should do more of.  I would love very much to hear your words.

Thinking your Monday is the first day of a brand new dream


Linking up to Jen @ Finding Heaven this Tuesday. . . hoping you can stop by:)

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Cha Cha - Okay we need to talk–I am headed to twitter to DM you.

Love You,

Cha Cha

Robyn Q - You are deep and your heart comes through your blog loud and clear. Beautiful. I have no idea what right or left is or anything about direction. This I know of you and have been thinking of you as I drive (weird…maybe…or just God). You are a facilitator. You are an arranger. You bring people together. Keep following your heart! God will work out the details – probably with the help of others – let them. Prayers for new beginnings.

Amy Sullivan - T,

What a good question. I know why I blog. I blog because God told me I had to learn to stop being so selfish, and in addition, he told me I needed to write about it (I just finished a post on this very thing!). I argued with God because I didn't want to write anything even remotely related to this topic.

In fact, I have multiple projects started that aren't Christian and aren't nonfiction and are what I see as "more me".

I, Amy, had big plans for writing big things and His little idea did not fit my plans. However, God has been following me around, and refusing to let me cave on His plans for me.

You? (Here's my two cents). I saw your niche when we worked together on your guest post at my place. Even though I only know a bit here and there, you are to write your story. Not necessarily a memoir, but I see you taking one of your biggest challenges, and writing about that. You strike me as a fighter, a survivor, and I see that playing into your writing too.

Kathleen's Red - I started blogging not too long after I lost my mother. I was feeling really alone and I had to find a way to express myself more creatively. I never wrote anything until I wrote a memorial piece for my dear Mama's funeral. Then I got hooked and met so many wonderful women I haven't been able to stop. I sometimes feel like I have no style or theme like so many of the blogs I visit, but then I remind myself that I can just be myself and not put pressure on myself to be like anyone else. I find reading blogs where the writer is honest and willing to risk being exposed to be the most interesting for me to read.

Jennifer - I love this post!! But then again, I pretty much love all of your posts!! I suppose the reason I blog (besides because I love posting book reviews) is to have an "uninterrupted" forum where I can purge a few of my thoughts. Sometimes it's easier for me to sort things out and get them resolved if I've blogged about them. I completely understand your thoughts on journaling. I read back through my old journals, and so much of it is a re-churning of the same old repetitive stressors, weaknesses, and far to much…well…whining. I whine a LOT. And I see so much LACK OF TRUST in God in my journaling. I still do it sometimes, if I really need to work something through, but I resolved not to journal daily, like I used to, because I generally upset myself, mulling over a lot of problems I couldn't solve–problems outside my realm of control.

Now YOUR blog is fantastic. I love that you don't have one particular "niche" and that you write about so many different topics–BUT, the threads that hold each post together are that they are all FOR women, they are all REAL, they are all about CULTIVATION AND TENDING (whether it be of relationships, the home, beauty, healthy habits), and they are all centered around GOD. You are such an example, and your blog is such an inspiration to me!! It is uplifting. Even heart-wrenching posts are UPLIFTING. You EDIFY others, and that is a true gift!!! :)

So wow, WAY too long of a comment!! Sorry about that, but I started to gush!!! :D

Erin@ It's Grac - I sense desperation in your heart on this "I have a heart for women who’s hearts are hemorrhaging, women in abusive relationships and are locked in prisons of fear and do not know how and/or do not have the tools and support to live life fully. How to take care of themselves and their children. How to find healing for the lies that were laid down with the wounds." I strongly believe that when the time is right, God will unleash this in whatever means He sees fit. I think of Romans 8:28.

Why do I blog? I was asking myself the SAME thing today. Sometimes it feels like a chore, and I never wanted it to feel that way. I originally started for fun and a way to keep family in touch with what our family was up to. Then it re-ignited my passion for writing and story-telling and encouraging women, too. But now sometimes it feels like I have to do this. All that to say, I feel what's missing is a "schedule" or better organization on my part. Anyway, long winded answer :)

Praying for you..and wanting you to know you can do it.

Rachel - I blog as for self expression and to find community. I love that as added bonus I am inspiring others. It makes me really consider my posts and love reaching out to others in this unique way.

jill - You are couragous! Love that!! You are real, love that too:)

I really relate to this post and to you…

I first started to blog because of my art business(why I'm an artist is a whole other can of worms), but quickly and unexpectedly I started to witness to what God is doing in my life. I really blog to encourage and lift up.

Thanks for this post, you rock girl!

Jen Ferguson - Oh, where to start, Tiffini? I have to say that I agree with Erin and Amy. And I think this blog is about FREEDOM. Freedom in your life that will echo onto these pages. Perhaps this space is to be a reflection of the choices that you are making in your life — the choices that bring you closer to freedom, closer to Jesus.

I blog for the reason I posted on the top of my blog. Here it is:

Most days it is so easy for me to get bogged down in my reality, the tangible, day-to-day happenings that make up my life. Oh, but so much more is waiting for me if I would come and sit awhile with Him. No matter what situations seem to define my life, there is a piece of Heaven waiting for me – a place of peace, restoration, and comfort. Being in this world is hard. Daily struggles, tribulations, and people pulling us in all different directions can take a toll on our lives. Somehow, though, finding a piece of Heaven can give us a new outlook, a new purpose, and direction we may have never considered. Finding God in those quiet moments brings refreshment to our malnourished souls. I am not great at keeping a personal journal, but thought that I might be more willing to write down my revelations if someone else might respond. That's a good reason to blog, right?

Stephanie - oh girl, we couldn't be more on the same page. As I am moving my blog to wordpress, I am asking myself the same things. But…I just want you to know that, ummmmm, okay….I know you don't blog just for me….but on some days it feels like that, LOL! You are so gifted girl, education is not needed for God to use you! He has all the education in the world to pour out on you! I don't know what your niche is, but I know that what your are doing right now blesses me and womenen like me :)

Christy - I think every single blogger ask themselves this very same question. I know I did…you see I don't feel I have a niche…and it took me a while to be completely okay with that. I mean I could if I wanted too….single girl, Christian, randomness….but in the end they are all part of me and I don't want to settle into one niche….

I blog because I adore writing. When I sit down in front of my computer and hit compose I am at one with my heart and I cannot wait to see what God unveils. Even on those silly random posts I do at times…. I know He enjoys because He sees beauty in humor….and all things me….and YOU.

If I start seeing writing as a chore or something I don't want to do….I take a step back…I put up a little note and say I am on a blogging break…and I seek His Face even more…and my heart is refreshed and I come back….writing because I love it.

Just enjoy the time when it comes to compose and write with your heart… That is what makes this place so beautiful :)

Pamela - This is my first visit to your blog. I'm following from the Soli Deo Gloria. So I can't give you a solid answer for your question. I do know that God will guide you as you obey each step.

The reason I blog? Because encouragement is my life long passion. There's so much to be discouraged about. I want to make life more beautiful, more meaningful and more blessed for others. And I want to teach others how to encourage–that it doesn't take a lot of creativity or money. God was very definate when it was time for me to blog. And He bloomed the throught in my heart that it was to include my daughters. So we blog together and it brings more joy than I thought possible.

As a writer, my advice to you would be 'start the book." Don't worry about grammar, punctuation or spelling. Just write your heart. The other things can be fixed. People just want to hear your heart and from what I'm reading, your heart is very, very special.

Glenda Childers - I have been thinking about this myself this morning, Tiffini, after reading chapter 3 in Ann Voskamp’s One Thousand Gifts. A few quote that really got me today.

Martin Luther ” If you want to change the world, pick up your pen.”

John Piper ” there are eyes in pencils and in pens.”

And some guy I had never heard of ” To name a thing, in other words is to bless God for it and in it.”

I blog because life and words matter.

I blog to share my life with my liternal daughters and my spiritual daughters.

I blog to keep myself thinking.

I blog to make myself slow down and enjoy my life.

I blog beause it is fun.

Oh boy, I think I’d best write a post about this in the future.

Blessings on you as you figure out your place in blogging. I think what you describe is similiar to my blog . . . a lifestyle blog. So it isn’t focussed to just one thing . . . but anything from my life.

Are you enjoying the Blogging Your Way class?


Glenda Childers - P.S. Great comments today.


Courtney - This is a hard question – and one every blogger has to ask herself, constantly. I’ve always been told, “Write what you know.” You clearly know motherhood and relationships. You don’t have to have everything figured out to “know” it – but you’ve been there, you ARE there, and you have a lot to offer on those subjects. Others too. You’ve got to go where you feel God is leading you.

I started blogging to better embrace motherhood and domesticity. It has turned into a real spiritual journey for me, as I come to know myself and God better. I love blogging and it hasn’t turned into a chore – yet :) One thing that helps me tremendously is to have a schedule or a plan about what I will write. It gives me boundaries and guidance, so I don’t feel so completely overwhelmed. My schedule or “work week” is posted on my sidebar. I may change it up down the road, but having that guideline really helps me focus.

Good luck as you search for your answers. You’ll be in my prayers!

Shari - Ha ha! You're asking your readers, too…. I did that today! I haven't got as many as you do, but they've been emailing me to give me encouragement and ideas. It's pretty awesome!

I love your blog!! I actually said, "ooooo!" as soon as I checked it out! See you in class!

Melanie - i love your honesty in this post and i love how we don’t need a formal education or credentials to be used by God. Your heart and desire to reach out to women is truly beautiful and God will use that. Just share your heart here. Like you’re doing already. Your words will bless others. They’ve blessed me today.

Glad to be in this community with you.

eileen - I really enjoyed this post. I was attracted to your blog because I tend to gravitate toward other bloggers who are not afraid to talk about the hard things. Real authentic community is not always pretty and "perfect". I like the courage I see in your writing and your blog.

At first, I started to blog simply as a place to put all my writing. I started writing again about 2 years ago… after not writing for 15 or so years. My blog has slowly transformed. I have always felt a strong desire to share my story with others and perhaps inspire others in their walk with the Lord. Blogging has been such a blessing in my life. It's been such a great journey getting to know you and so many other bloggers!

BIg Fat Mama - I have felt this way so much too. Why am I blogging and where am I going with this. I had to turn my question around. Why is God having me blog and where is HE going with this? I just write what He puts on my mind, and then give it to Him and let Him take it where He wants it to go!

LLH Designs - Your niche is diving into the deep…naked! :) I love the way you throw off fear and strip off layers.

I started blogging as an extension of my business, but it’s morphed into something more personal. Not sure how long God wants me to stick with it. Finding the balance between real life and the blog world can be challenging at times. We’ll see where God leads. :)


Abby - oh…i love all of the love you are getting here and concur so much…and see this as the Lord’s embrace over YOU. YOUR STORY. The LOVE you pour and the kindredcy you foster with me and so i assume it’s like this with all who feel connected with you…

i don’t think you got to read my post yesterday (that’s fine:)!, it was long–about Chapter 6 of Ann’s book: “I want to see!”), but more of my story and ‘years locusts have eaten restored’ I think for US that is what this blogging journey is…

coming to life and pouring forth His story through the brokenness of our lives and these words redeeming and healing not only us, but through His story over our lives–those who He brings…this is Ann’s journey and i couldn’t think of any more beautiful blogger to share a core ‘blogging call’ with:) did you listen to/read her keynote from Relevant?

amanda - I loved reading your honest words in this post. I think there are so many bloggers who struggle w/ this. I certainly do. But there's a sweetness and a beauty in your writing voice.

Jodene Shaw - This is my first visit to your blog, and I relate very much to the desires and dreams that you have stirring in your heart. It was those same things that caused me to begin a blog…to start writing and sharing it with others. As you keep going forward, I think you will find more of your purpose with it ~ which will grow and change as you do. I started out writing some journals that had length and depth rooted in what God was showing me. I found that I kept waiting for these lengthy posts of profound things God was showing, and then discovered Him and sharing Him in the daily things of life and family, started sharing my photography, and my journey into art. So it is very different.

One resource you might find helpful is the book and workbook by Dan Allender, “To Be Told”. This helped me in writing some of my own stories.

I look forward to watching your blog and seeing your focus develop…

Thanks for stopping in today!
love & grace, jodi

Linda Lewis - The "why" is a big question for all of us who blog, and I think there are many answers. In many ways, it is just another form of journaling, but instead of the words being locked away, they are shared with others who will find you as they look for like "sisters". Your niche will become clearer to you, but right now you seem to be touching young moms who are struggling to find answers in their own lives. There's nothing wrong with that.

kerrie - I am new to your blog. I just found it this week! I do like your 'nakedness'. We are in similar situations with a half empty nest. I too have been Mothering/Homekeeping/Homeeducating for the past 22 yrs. of my life. For two years now I've been seeking God on what to do for the rest…He's been bringing some clarity lately…and I am at peace again. You can read more about that on my In The Quiet blog post 'Return', if you want. Anyways I just wanted to share that I am a beauty person too…I live my days 'beholding His beauty' Psalm 27:4. When I began blogging my focus was to 'give beauty'. It was for me just as much as others. I wanted a place of retreat to go to. I named my blog after my home 'Sea Cottage'. The sea is my favorite place to be in the whole world. It is where I feel closest to God. So over time(I've been blogging for four years now) my blog went in a sea-themed direction. The most comments I have received have been to tell me that my blog is a place of 'retreat' from the busy-ness of daily life. When I have wanted to give up, I am reminded of why I blog~ 'to give beauty'…this has kept me grounded and with purpose. I began my In The Quiet blog for a place of contemplation…it is more like my original blog. I am also in a place in my life where I am pursueing my art again so I have a blog for that too…Seawashed…it is more for me to keep my pursuit of art organized. As you can see I have always journaled too. I hope all of this helps in some small way. One thing that I have learned from the Blogging community is to blog for yourself…your blog is YOURS, so don't ever blog what you think others might want to hear about…blog for you and let what is in your heart flow forth. I am adding you to my blog list on both my Sea Cottage and In The Quiet blogs. I do love the name of your blog…'belonging'…the very heart of God.

Bina - Hello!!

I am new over here…popped over from Jen's place…and so very glad I did. I have struggled with trying to maintain the blog in the midst of spiritual and situational struggles…and yet, not matter how pulled I get from it, it never lasts as He always calls me back. I have found myself in my blog…the true parts of me that I don't often express to those around me. I have found God in it…realizing even as I am writing that He will spinning and weaving my story right before my eyes. I have found friends here…some of them so dear to my heart that I can't believe I "barely" know them.

I appreciate this post…and the follow up…very much.




The Lord willing I will be ready to share my new heart direction with you next week. I am bursting to share it!


Guess who is doing Meatless Mondays now? NO – not me...Cooking with my Kid! I just love her & the kid!  Monday should be her first post.  I am beyond excited.  over food…I know.  I think about it 24/7.  Sad but true.


I found this chalkboard menu @ Finding Fabulous that I think would be a fun addition to my kitchen.   I’ve made several myself and a chalkboard border in my eat in kitchen you can check out here. What a cute way to share your menu for the week yes? Notice she has Wendy’s/Subway?  I would replace with Siki ( sushi), Chipotle or Chikfila ( if I HAD to do a drive thru).




over the last 2 weeks or so I have fallen in love…with Sushi. Before I brag to much I must confess I’m a wanna be.  My plan is to work my way up.  It is not the raw fish – it is the nori.  The taste of the seaweed that makes my throw up reflex coil.

I am so in love with soy paper wrapped around cucumber or avocado… THEN – I will work up to the raw fish in the soy papers.

oohh..the Edamame.  I have Grace hooked on it now.  Steamed w/ salt.  I am blogging while Grace is in dance and I am thinking I may just sneak down to Siki and grab some.  My sister Amber tells me it is liberating to sit at the bar alone.  Me – not so much.  Not there YET.  Soon:)


Have you ever craved food so bad you had to eat it for the next two weeks or something?  I know I am not the only one:)

Praying extravagant crazy grace over each one of  you this weekend



Abby - awww…love it all. And yes, this chalkboard in the kitchen? a lovely addition…

and Siki? no, I don't know about this, but you are craving good foods:) Lysa would be proud;)

hugs sweet friend!

lissa - I LOVE Sushi! love love love! and now you have me wanting some so bad! :)

Stephanie - I love me some edamame too! Sushi, not so much, LOL! And yes I do crave things for like weeks at a time, LOL. Right now it's this new self serve yogurt place we have, Tart Yogurt with fresh strawberries and blueberries!!!! YUMMO!!!!!!

Robyn Q - I love the chalkboard! I used to do this when the kids were little all the time. Now, my desk top is chalkboard and we leave notes & to-do lists on it. So handy!

No thanks on Sushi…

Glenda Childers - How fun to get a moment to yourself and a favorite snack,while your daughter is happily dancing away.


LLH Designs - Now I get why you asked if I like sushi! My girls absolutely love it. It's their favorite dinner out. Wen the fish is fresh, its REALLY good!

Happy Friday {Go Texan Day for me}!

LLH Designs - P.S. Just had to come back and add that I'm bursting to hear about your new heart direction!

Genevieve Mama Natur - I can't get enough of my Lara Bars. I have one a day. That and kombucha (a really expensive, kinda nasty tasty drink :).

Seaweed IS an acquired taste. Baby steps.

Michelle DeRusha - I admit, I do not like sushi…or seaweed. But when I was pregnant with my second son, I got obsessed with guacamole and could not stop eating it. To this day I still love it — and I had never tasted it before that pregnancy craving. My youngest loves it, too- probably because he got such consistent exposure to it in utero!

How to get motivated to simplify


community… that’s how

I am going to join Simple Mom for this project.  I think it may help us in the process of moving ( yes, I’m moving – another post ) to organize and simplify.  I have written on it here and here.

For five weeks, we’ll work together and tackle different areas of our homes. Be encouraged and inspired, knowing that there are other families around the world rolling up their sleeves and working alongside you!

Begins March 7!

project simplify

Would you like to join me?  Just click on the graphic and it will take you to all the information you need. This is a big link up but it would be kinda fun to share our own experiences with our ” smaller ” group as well?  Let me know:)

Plus – it is just THAT time of year: Spring Cleaning

I also had this sweet little post delivered to my email and in case  you haven’t seen them yet I wanted to share.

I know some of you are writers and journal and would appreciate this.  You might just have to buy one of these lovelies:)  Why don’t you go on over and meet Katie @ Gadanke.


Happy almost weekend…oh also – I applied to go through volunteer training @ a domestic violence safe home that our community has.  I looked at this last summer and just kind of shelved it.  Well – I got another email and I applied.  We’ll see.




Glenda Childers - I just moved a few months ago, from Seattle to Chicago, and I am so so glad for everything I got rid of before I moved. So I will loudly cheer you on . . . YOU CAN DO IT.



Cindy - Hi Tiffini,

you know, somehow I got an email from you yesterday! And I think I missed Word Women Wednesday, but somehow found imperfect prose, and dared to let that much vulnerability show! But thanks for coming by, and for the email yesterday…by the way, I have come here to comment 3 times today, but got side-tracked with gadanke and simple mom's spot…ha, ha…good to "meet" you!

word women wednesday & Brooke Mcglothlin

Reaching hearts of boys for the Gospel & preparing a generation of men to love the Lord…

I didn’t ask God to give me a prayer ministry. I inherited it when God gave me two little boys.

In my eBook, Warrior Prayers: Praying the Word for Boys in the Areas They Need it Most, I share that I’ve always wanted boys. For as long as I can remember I’ve dreamed of the opportunity to raise boys who would be different…who would love God, their family and others.

I look back now and see so much self-righteousness in those dreams. Keywords? I wanted to raise boys who would be different. I did.

As if I could do it by myself.

It took God a whole 72 hours after my first son was born to show me how much I needed Him. Nursing was going great until the lactation consultant came in and told me I was doing it wrong…right before we left. She moved him around and moved me around and irritated both of us. By the time we got home he refused to eat at all and I found myself unable to feed my own child. For the first eleven days of his life at home with us he was fed through a syringe while I pumped and wept thinking that giving him a bottle would eliminate all chances of being able to nurse.

Thus began a series of life lessons on how little control I have over anything.

*Struggling to nurse my firstborn. *A wreck that nearly took my grandmother’s life and two others. *Stroke after stroke that left my grandfather blind…now fading into eternity. *The Virginia Tech shootings – a friend full of potential killed that day – shot to death. Husband a first responder. Rebellious second pregnancy that leaves me contracting in stress all day long. *Father’s older brother dies on my son’s first birthday. *Father’s younger brother dies 10 months later – same genetic lung disease. *Grandmother fading away in her memories. *Two sons born 23 months apart driving me to the edge and back every single day…stripping my pride…leaving me literally begging God for a miracle of the heart. *Husband who works shift work – people telling him they hope his family dies out of their own anger – and the stress? It follows him though he loves Jesus and he loves us.

This has been my last five years.

And I’ve learned this: life as a Believer isn’t about having control…it’s about letting it go.

From the book:

There are so many good books out there today on the topic of parenting that I can’t count them. Nor do I have time to read them all. But even if I did, reading these books and putting the solid tools in them to work still doesn’t come with guarantees.

Knowing this, it becomes quite clear that there is only one thing we can do…

Plead with God.


“The fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.” ~James 5:17

It’s our hope.

I’ve been praying the Word over my sons now for over two years. And what, might you ask, has it accomplished? I’ve seen God soften my sons’ hearts in specific areas over time, but honestly, I think praying the Word over my boys has done as much for me as it has for them. It reconnects my heart in faith that God is able to be true to His Word. It reminds me of what He’s truly capable of and that ultimately, He is the one most responsible for the hearts of my sons…the part I play is really so small.

No, I didn’t ask the Lord to give me a prayer ministry. He brought it to me out of my own desperation for Him. Along with it came freedom from self-righteousness. Freedom in submission. Freedom in His Truth. Freedom to give up control. Freedom to trust and hope and believe.

I still dream that my boys will be different…lovers of God…others. But now I have freedom in my dreams. Freedom to be who He dreamed I would be…and trust in the dream He has for my sons.


Brooke McGlothlin began Warrior Prayers as a way to connect moms to the heart of the Father in prayer on behalf of their sons. Every weekday she offers prayers formed from the Word of God targeted to areas where boys need prayer the most. You can follow her daily prayers on Twitter (#WarriorPrayers) and Facebook or you can pick up her brand new eBook, Warrior Prayers: Praying the Word for Boys in the Areas They Need it Most and join her in her upcoming prayer challenge, 21 Days of Prayer for Sons.

Brooke is a homeschooling mom of two young boys, wife of the man she’s had a crush on since the 3rd grade, lover of Hokie football, co-founder of the M.O.B. Society, and offers hope for change to the hearts of women at her personal blog, A Life in Need of Change.


All I can say is buy the Ebook! I have 2 boys 16 & 20 and it is just important to wash them in the water of prayer.  Even our grown sons, our husbands and any men in our lives!  Overflowing with meat and worth the 5 dollars!


Amy Sullivan - Brooke,

So glad to hear your words today. Control is one of my big issues. Battling the urge to do everything myself, on my terms, is something I struggle with daily. I don't have boys, but have many friends that do. Also, love the idea of 21 days.


Thanks for hosting!

tkilgore - Brooke – I struggle with trusting God. Trusting if He has a dream for me let alone for my children. Your words are powerful and it has stirred what I know to be true that prayer is a lifeline between God and I and it is our hope.
Praying for God to stir the hearts to prayer and we value your words and thank you so much for sharing them:)
I am going to join you in the 21 days. I have two sons, 16 & 20

Bobbi - I'm not seeing the WWW linky but my post is up to share with ya'll! Smiles and hugs to all for a good rest of the week!

eileen - I struggle with being consistent in prayer for my seven year old son. When he was born I "dedicated" a couple verses to him and will often go back and read them. Just ordered the book and looking forward to reading it.

Brooke McGlothlin - Thank so much for having me friends. What a wonderful community you have here! I'm thrilled to get to be a part of it today. Many blessings as you let go and dream the dreams God has for you.

Stephanie - Brooke,
As a mom of a son with Asperger's, I worry about him so much. Thank you for this post. I am realzing that I need to worry less, and pray more!!! Thank you for this post, and your book! What an amazing blessing!!!

e-Mom - Thanks for your invitation to link up! Have a blessed day, Mom… and thanks for hosting.

e-Mom @ Chrysalis

Jen Ferguson - I, too, have dreams of raising girls who love Jesus and who desire to please Him more than the world. I know that I should pray scripture more than I do and sometimes I fear that I don't pray enough.

tkilgore - to be honest…I prayed it for Grace as I was praying for the boys. It love how Brooke has it laid out. I like it to because I have room to write:)

Abby - Thank you Brooke! Prayer is breath and breath is life.

I love your courage and heart to walk this and bring others along…what a blessing! And yes, they really are His, aren't they? Oh, knowing I need to/desire to pray more for my son…

BIg Fat Mama - I agree in the power of prayer!