are you ready for some hard knee time?

Can the American family be saved? I asked that question.  I believe the first answer to that question is prayer.  I don’t just think a quick hey God…is what is needful.  I believe it is the offering of intentional pouring out our hearts..wrapped in gratitude until….until.  I am convicted & challenged and I believe God is calling this mom to do some hard knee time on behalf of her sons.  Will you join us at the altar for 21 days and share what our God is going to do in the lives of our sons?

April 1, 2011 – April 29, 2011

Each Friday I will provide bloggers with an opportunity to link-up posts about how God is moving through the 21 Days of Prayer for Sons experience. But anyone, bloggers and non-bloggers alike can participate and share how God is working in their family by leaving comments throughout the challenge….Brooke McGlothlin

In the place of your fathers will be your sons;

You shall make them princes in all the earth.

Psalm 45:16

Won’t you kneel here and add your blog name to the Sign Up?

********Word Women Wednesday********

Tomorrow guest post & linkup.  Writing prompt is Zephaniah 3:17. Remember, it can be anything that this verse inspires you.  Crafts, story, poem, pictures whatever.  Just have fun with it.  Visit and encourage each other.  As always – if you have any ideas or questions please don’t hesitate for one moment to email ok?:)

Linking up my words with their words today @ Finding Heaven. Go meet my friend…Jen and all the other women who have impacted my life in such a huge way.

Finding Heaven



Glenda Childers - I don't think I am going to join this, as I want to do the 40 days of community and I don't have sons. But I love the sweetness of a mom on her knees praying for her boys. I pray for my daughters so often . . . and it brings me such joy.

Hope your feeling better, Tiffini. (saw the comment on Jen's post.)



Erin @ It's Gra - My short answer is "I hope so". But sadly, many won't be saved. I can always be praying more for both my children. My son is such a sweet little boy of 7 that rarely gives us concern, so I often overlook praying for him. I need to remember there needn't be a trial that causes me to fall to my knees for him.

Hope you're feeling better…saw you mention not feeling well on Jen's blog. Praying for you..

Stephanie - Tiffini! I love your heart, it is so evident in each and every one of your posts! I am not sure if I can commit to the 21 days right now as we are getting into the hardcore content of the survivors support group I lead. But I will continue to pray for may family, and all families, that we all draw closer together and closer to God! Blessings to you and your family too!!!

jenny - t-

very intrigued by this. i will look into it. feel free to email me more about the 21 day prayer call. i can get ditsy and distracted by daily life and would love to be reminded! :)

on a not-so-serious note…i'd really love to know how you created all the pages/categories on your site. i'm needing to spice mine up a bit with various goodies. any advice you can offer is appreciated!


Pamela - I don't have sons, but I am so touched by this challenge. I want mothers to offer their sons to God; my daughter will need a character-driven, heart-for-God man.

Jen - I have 2 girls, but this post really convicts me that I do not spend as much time on my knees for them as I should. This inspires me. Thank you.

Eileen - I am linked and ready to go!!

Abby - yes, i will love to join, but as you know life is already crazy…i'll *pray* about it…and yes, hard knee prayers…pleading with Heaven for what only He can do…and surrendering our wills and timing to His…there's no other way!

much love sister:)

Amy Sullivan - T,

So glad to see you are hooking up with Brooke again. I enjoyed her words when she was here.

I want to be a part of Word Woman Wednesday at some point. . .not sure if I will make it this week, but I love your ideas, and I always think your prompts sound fun.

amanda - I think this is such a great idea. My son is 15 and going through many changes as a teenager, and I know the Lord has some great things for him to do, I pray continually for wisdom and discernment in keeping him on the right track.

Rachel - Praying for the strengthening of families everywhere!

marlece - Hi Tiffini…I have come here and read this several times. It has really hit home with me. The whole get on your knees for your sons. I have four of them actually. I have so many prayers going to my Father over my boys but I know taking that time to GET ON MY KNEES is soooooooo what I need to do to get break thru so many times. I will try and link up here too. Thanks!

Dear Monday…are you afraid of your dreams?

It’s the dream afraid of waking that never takes the chance

Bette Midler – The Rose

over the weekend I saw girls dance to this song…and I’ve been thinking

on the words ever since

prettylittleflower:  (by svetlana_b)

SShhh…quiet walking around and round…a dream lies slumbering 

Mondays are good days for taking chances

eyes open ..  seeing ..  for the very first time


Do you have dreams that you have left to slumber years away

maybe we fear to give them a chance that

the dream may just come true


40 Day of Community – A Journey through Lent

I love this!  I am going to try and participate.  I’ve never participated in Lent before.  I grew up Southern Baptist and it wasn’t really talked about.  Thought I’d share it with all of you too:)


********Word Women Wednesday********

This Word Women Wednesday we will have a surprise guest poster and linkup.  The writing prompt linkup will be Zephaniah 3:17.  Remember – this is a broad prompt.  You can link up a poem, story, craft, pictures whatever…anything goes as long as it relates to the verse. 

Be sure to come and see who our guest poster is.  I know your heart will be blessed and you will go away with fresh inspiration for your heart & spirit.

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eileen - Taking that first step into the unknown is always scary. Especially if you are normally a shy or timid person. (Like me) But with every new adventure, I just have to remind myself that God was faithful in the past and He continues to be faithful today. Even in failure there is growth and a lesson to be learned!

Happy Monday! Keep dreaming!

Cha Cha - Beautiful as always. Thank you for pushing me, I treasure your words spoken with love.

Cha Cha

jill - I do know what it means to dare to dream. When I am presented with a dream fullfilling moment, I always think of Jesus calling Peter out of the boat to walk on water. I hear the words, 'Ye, of little faith'…it pushes me to pick up my net and follow that dream.


Robyn Q - "Mondays are good days for taking chances." – That is challenging! I need stirring, need to wake my dreams. You've got a way, Tiffini! Thanks for what you post. Blessings,

Donnetta - A lot of deep thinking wrapped up in this question. It will have me pondering for some time…

Becky @ Farmgirl Pai - Your blog is beautiful! Love the design. I have lots of dreams and sometimes I wonder if I could handle it if they actually came true.

Glenda Childers - Tiffini, I have been running into Lent all over the place. So happy to find your link tonight. I bought Common Prayer a few weeks ago and have not begun using it. I am desiring to join in the 40 days. Thanks for sharing it.


P.S. I am kinda of in a coping/just moved stage and need to get back to a dreaming stage.

You mean I’m not superwoman?

we weave the lessons into the fabric of our daily moments until they become a part of us

Sarah Ban Breathnach

He will not only deliver you; but in doing so, He will give you a lesson that you will never forget, and to which, in many a psalm and song, in after days, you will revert.  You will never be able to thank God enough for having done just as He has.

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it rent me sore…my cape that fell hard that day. I was born complicated and in this complication I learned ways in which I strangled the voice of purpose God knitted me so beautifully with.  He knew the plans He had for me but the problem was- no one else did. Not even me. so with the wounds came the lies stitched tight.

years of being driven came out of those tight stitched lies … the “not enough” stitch. This name tag I own because it was my truth . not THE truth.  I lived out of I’m complicated the majority of the time.  Subsequently, I lived with the consequences of this name tag.  The worthlessness I felt..I can’t do or be enough to please anyone…even God.  It drives me to do.. and do.. and do.

I’m tired.  I want to quit.  Those were my closest friends.

If one is never enough what ever in the world could make one enough?  the soul wears out in the doing.

When Jesus had tasted it, he said, “It is finished!” Then he bowed his head and released his spirit.  John 19:30

And all who are recipients of that salvation are granted everything pertaining to life and godliness through the true knowledge of Christ (2 Pet. 1:3)

Christ was enough..He was the perfect sacrifice.  Christ fulfilled ALL of the law. so when God sees me  He sees Christ and He is perfect.  Christ is ENOUGH therefore I am enough.  I don’t have to fulfill ANY law!!  I’ve been given everything I need.  It is all there for me to excavate to live a whole-hearted life of freedom.  Believe me – I am digging wrapped in the robe of Christ.

A couple of weeks ago a Dr. said to me ” your complicated” and that which I thought I’d buried erupted through an open wound.   Those two words. why now?  the fabric of my soul begin to pull…Father what?  am I complicated?  it took me right back to eyes staring at me with disgust and disappointment..I was a child.  Another wound..another lie.  and maybe I was.  to complicated.  Frantic – I looked around for something to stop the blood.  I always look to myself first and out of nowhere I felt the hard pressure of the words with breath

you are not an orphan child .. your my daughter

then silence……….long silence

then deep pressure saying you are enough..quit doing and the seeping slowed. WORD was seeping IN.

Nothing is to hard for me Tiffini

for you see -I’ve loved you from before time and I knitted you together just the way I wanted you and all of this as He spread His hands far and wide so far in fact- I couldn’t even for all of the land that I am going to give you..and your children and your children’s children.  For you see – I have a Big Story…and you have just a part.  and just like I told you in October it is My song that I gave you and in your fear you think it is yours…tell My story.

your story .. will forever remain incomplete…until you let me do what only I can do with your hurt…Let Me perfect that which concerns you.

Beth Moore – Breaking Free

I created you to be a word woman.  You can run and keep tying that cape trying and be something different .. to fit in..but you won’t.  In your heart you know this.  Your spirit tells you these are truth words.  It is up to you what to do with them.

the world doesn’t need anymore superwomen…the world needs word women

The dark horse has become the symbol of the ordinary person

who comes out a winner due to the grace of God.

But most importantly, the dark horse is the image of real Christianity…righteousness amidst human flaws.

The church is inundated with white horses.  Flawless, successful, inaccessible leaders who only drive the average Christian

deeper into frustration, guilt and failure.

If we are to learn to follow Christ, it will be the dark horses, not the white ones, that will show us the way.

Keith Miller-


God is knitting the fabric of our lives…round the world…women gathered together…word women…and it is something to celebrate – new garments made in love..knitted in love, something women have always done.

the fire is warm and women are waiting.  now is the time.  bare your heart and let go of the pain that so easily takes you captive and let Him begin to perfect that which concerns you.  Will you?  will I?

the cape is buried for good what about yours ?  there is a place right beside me…are you ready for more Word women?




Loved this -

Emily @ Chatting at the Sky post…making decisions

We are going to Omaha, NE today for Grace’s first dance competition!  Praying all of your weekends are filled with gratefulness. love. joy and each other.  See you on Dear Monday…xo  My heart has been filled by your words of encouragement to Why do you blog?  You encourage me…every single one of you.


Shari - I threw out my cape a long time ago… I realized that I was never drawn to perfection, anyway! I strove for it because that's what people expected of me… then I realized, no one was really watching, anyway! Do as I will as long as I hurt no one, and as long as I help as many people as I can. That's my way.

I love this net(work) of women bloggers who knit with words… so touching and beautiful…. the fabric of the world as sewn by women's hands and minds and hearts… it's amazing!!

Thank you, Tiffini!! xox

Becky - Your words gave me chills. Thank you.

Stephanie - Amen Sister Girl!!!! I love this post, in fact I am quiet certain that it is my favorite one so far!!! Pure awesomeness, and so evidently inspired by the holy spirit! And complicated, what does that mean anways, complicated. I think it's a compliment, you think deeper than most, your heart is so deep and so beautiful, how can it help but be complicated. God's love is complicated, Christ, GOD, dying for us, that's complicated, and yet simple. Complicated, and yet beautifully simplistic, God's beautiful princess Word Woman, whom I love dearly!!!!

Glenda Childers - Thanks for the reminder of the importance of words. Let's keep writing, eh?



Ps. I love complicated people . . . they make wonderful friends.


there is so much here i love…always felt the same lie–'i'm complicated' and too much for others and never enough for Him!

oh, how the heart aches to be healed! i loved the keith miller quote…

all of this and

Abby - *oops…i got cut off, accidentally*


I'll be sharing more at my blog…suffice it to say, God has THE AMAZING in store for you!! and so much more–His heart over you sister:)

Word women wednesday & parenting linkup

I first connected with Mindy over her post My Ten Year Anniversary with God over at (in)courage.  Her words resonated with my heart and I immediately contacted her.  She is a woman who allows God to pursue her and “she can testify that all of His gifts are indeed GOOD, even though they aren’t always in pretty packages. In fact, I have learned quite a bit through suffering, maybe even more than any other way.”  I am excited for you to meet her.  Without further adieu…

Freedom in Parenting

Hindsight is a funny thing.  It gives perspective that can be found in no other way.

When my first-born child was born.  I was terrified.  My hormones were so out of whack and I was too busy adjusting and crying to realize how scared I was, but I can see it looking back.

I was scared to death that my kids would have to go through some of the things that I did. I wanted to create a perfect world for them and I was sure that if I just tried hard enough and got enough information, than I could do just that.

It started with whether or not to let Dylan cry it out.  Would I scar him for life if I let him cry? Would he have this feeling of deep insecurity and mistrust if I didn’t comfort him immediately?   And then it was environment, would he be influenced down a dark path if I let him be around certain types of people and/or watch certain shows? Education, would I be able to provide for him so that one day he could succeed in this dog eat dog world? And of course there’s salvation,would he trust Jesus with his heart or would I screw him up so badly that He never wanted anything to do with Jesus? Would being a pastor’s kid mess him up?  What foods do I feed him to make sure he doesn’t struggle with childhood obesity? What kind of kids do I let him hang around? Image is a big one too. How do I make him do the right thing and act the right way when we are around other people? Do they think I am am horrible mom because he wouldn’t give them a high five? What if he disobeys me in front of the other moms?

It’s insanity the things that go through your head when you are a new mom.  And it’s enough to cause a person to parent paralyzed.  That’s what I used to do.

I was always, always, always thinking of the affect of everything I did or said.  I wanted perfect kids and a perfect family. It didn’t take long to realize that I was the biggest obstacle.  Jason was always so laid back about the way we did things with our kids and I didn’t understand why he wasn’t stressed out like I was!!  Didn’t he realize the weight of being a parent?? Didn’t he know we only had 18 years or so to get this RIGHT?!

I read every single parenting book out there.

Over the course of the years, and I can’t exactly pin point the moment, God began to free me of those fears and insecurities.  I started asking God how I should pray for my kids, and somewhere along the way, I realized that the best way to parent my kids was how God was parenting me. The books I had read were good, but the best influence I had in my life was God the father himself.

He speaks truths over me.  He tells me things like, “I have loved you with an everlasting love,” “I have a future and a hope for you,” “do not be afraid, I am with you,” “nothing you ever do could separate you from my love,” and “come to me when you are tired and weary and I will give you rest.”  He also gives me free will to make decisions.  Sometimes, when I make the wrong decisions, He lets the consequences of my actions play out.  Sometimes He steps in and protects me from my actions.  Always, He covers me with His grace, He never shames me.  He never holds my mistakes over my head.  He forgives me constantly.  He loves me when no-one else does.

So I started transferring these things over to my kids. I have had people tell me on numerous occasions that, “I am so calm.”  And I have to give all the glory to God.  When my kids do silly things, I deal with it, and move on.  It’s not some huge surprise to me that they act like kids and have to be corrected frequently.

God also has told me to teach them His ways.  So I am doing that. And because I know my God can be trusted and that He loves me, I am resting in the fact that He will take care of the “outcome.” He loves my kids more than I do and for some reason, unbeknownst to me, He has given Jason and I the privilege of raising them. All I can do is be faithful to what He can commands of me and take rest in His sovereignty over the rest.

This gives me freedom and peace and I am so thankful for the drastic change God has made in my life! And my kids are still so young, so I get to have many years of resting in His truth’s! Hallelujah! Thank you Jesus.  YOU ALONE are mighty to save. You are such a compassionate God who has heard my cries. I love you and praise you!


Please go over and visit Mindy @ Very Unfinished Product and let’s show her some word women love:)

Mindy also started a linkup called In my Shoes and Mindy’s book list is worth your time to check out.  Well – what do you think?  Good words…please feel free to share your input on parenting in the comments below and/or linkup a post on parenting ( words, poem, pictures, a craft…whatever is related to being a parent or wanting to be;)

Just put the direct URL in and that’s it. If you would so kindly link back to Word woman Wednesday… that would be an easy way for us all to find each other. Also - Erin over @ ItsGrace gets us all together on Thursday for Mama’s Heart if you would like to link your parenting post over there tomorrow?

Thank you to each one of you for baring your hearts here each Wednesday. Next Wednesdays prompt is Zephaniah 3:17!!!

The LORD your God is with you,
the Mighty Warrior who saves.
He will take great delight in you;
in his love he will no longer rebuke you,
but will rejoice over you with singing.”

Lots of opportunity for inspiration!



Mindy Carlettini - Wow. Thank you so much for your kind words Tiffini! I really appreciate it.


Erin @ It's Gra - What a beautiful post! I can certainly relate to all those new mom questions and worries. It's amazing how much more relaxing parenting becomes after you've had more than 1 kid.

I love how God works on our hearts as parents by being a loving Father to much love, grace, tenderness..

Thanks for mentioning my link up..hope we get some new mama's tomorrow!!



Green, Yellow and Teddy-Teddy | - [...] I’m linking up with Tiffini from “House of Belonging” for “Word Women Wednesday”. [...]

eileen - I can so relate to that fear of being a parent for the first time! I can remember when my son came home from the hospital…I finally felt like an adult. I had this huge responsibility in my life. For the first few days it took both me and my husband just to change a diaper. We were so intimidated by our little, delicate bundle of joy!

LLH Designs - You've done it again, Tiff! Just when I think I have nothing to say, you make me dig a little deeper! I love this post of yours today. I have much to learn from you. And am SO THANKFUL for all that you are!



Alicia @ La Famille - beautiful words about being a mama :) i'm coming over from "between you & me" and i'm gonna link up too :)

Glenda Childers - I was just like this . . . always making sure my actions were the best for my kids and taking the blame when things went wrong. It took a dear friend to point out that this was co-dependency and I was not helping my kids at all. I really had to change the way I thought . . . and my kids turned out great :).

So glad I listened.

This is a beautifully written and inspiring post.



Robyn Q - Man! This sums it up for me! "…somewhere along the way, I realized that the best way to parent my kids was how God was parenting me." Great stuff. Parenting is hard work. My mother told me once that it should be the most natural thing in the world. It's not for me. I want it to be…but so many aspects I stumble. I am starting to realize the more we live aware of God's presence, the more we BELIEVE who He says we are, the more we can graciously parent with His heart.

Good stuff. Keeps me thinking, thank you!

Abby - This is beautiful and spoke more to me than just about anything I have read recently, Mindy. Honestly, thank you so much…i want to print this out and come back to it–it echoes where He's brought me and yet challenges too–so,so,so good!

Tiffini, you are doing something special here on Wednesdays {and all the time!} love you!

Mindy Carlettini - Thank you to everyone for the encouragement!

Dear monday: why do you blog?


Why do you blog?  I know…deep question right?  One that I am really digging deep to answer.  Asking your help at the end…

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Here are TWO questions I am asking.

Why did I start blogging

I started this last October to just start writing my heart about the changes that God  was doing in my life.  Laying down the heart words on paper.  I have always journaled but the problem is when I went back to read the journals…10 years later I am still in many of the same situations. Not much change.  That is a big problem.  for me.  I am walking the middle right now waiting for direction on which way to go … right or left.

Warning: Vulnerable Confession!

I have NO background in writing, crafting, design, photography anything. I didn’t even finish high school.  I was married at 16 and had my first three children by the time I was 22. I did later go back to get my GED.  That being said – I’ve been a stay at home mom since I was 16.  So 26 years.  I am blogging for ME first…to sort myself out…HA!   I would love to write some kind of book.    I have a few ideas.  I will need an editor as you all know I don’t know the grammer rules etc.  I just write how I talk….lol?  works for me but not so much for a book:)

It has been 5 months?  now what?  what is my niche?  I really want to know!

I have no idea. I know – not a good answer but an honest one.  I am definitely a beauty hunter this I know.  My heart is deep and complicated.  I love to write the heart dialogue down and I look for God to answer them.  I am wanting to find out who I am, my purpose and how to live securely and …….I have a heart for women who’s hearts are hemorrhaging, women in abusive relationships and are locked in prisons of fear and do not know how and/or do not have the tools and support to live life fully. How to take care of themselves and their children. How to find healing for the lies that were laid down with the wounds.

I do enjoy decorating, cooking and all of the things that encompass being a woman.  Just not sure what the blog should be about.  Maybe it can be all these things… I just don’t know.


this is what has been on my heart for my blog…His blog really.  I really do pray very much about this blog and the direction He wants me to take it.  He initiated this and I am want to follow hard after it.  I think of you all often as I write.  Three of my five children are grown.  The younger two are 16 & 11 and I feel it is time.  This last 10-11 years have been tumultuous to say the least. Lots of changes.  If I’m going to write a different future I am going to have to get off the fence and go right or left.  I don’t want to look back in 10 more years and STILL see the same thing.  It is like deep dreams that I have buried and or never believed inare now saying ” It is time” .


What is your niche? do you know?  how did you know?

Why do you blog? Honestly?

I would love ANY constructive criticism on what you all may see as my niche.  What I might do away with and what I should do more of.  I would love very much to hear your words.

Thinking your Monday is the first day of a brand new dream


Linking up to Jen @ Finding Heaven this Tuesday. . . hoping you can stop by:)

Finding Heaven


















Cha Cha - Okay we need to talk–I am headed to twitter to DM you.

Love You,

Cha Cha

Robyn Q - You are deep and your heart comes through your blog loud and clear. Beautiful. I have no idea what right or left is or anything about direction. This I know of you and have been thinking of you as I drive (weird…maybe…or just God). You are a facilitator. You are an arranger. You bring people together. Keep following your heart! God will work out the details – probably with the help of others – let them. Prayers for new beginnings.

Amy Sullivan - T,

What a good question. I know why I blog. I blog because God told me I had to learn to stop being so selfish, and in addition, he told me I needed to write about it (I just finished a post on this very thing!). I argued with God because I didn't want to write anything even remotely related to this topic.

In fact, I have multiple projects started that aren't Christian and aren't nonfiction and are what I see as "more me".

I, Amy, had big plans for writing big things and His little idea did not fit my plans. However, God has been following me around, and refusing to let me cave on His plans for me.

You? (Here's my two cents). I saw your niche when we worked together on your guest post at my place. Even though I only know a bit here and there, you are to write your story. Not necessarily a memoir, but I see you taking one of your biggest challenges, and writing about that. You strike me as a fighter, a survivor, and I see that playing into your writing too.

Kathleen's Red - I started blogging not too long after I lost my mother. I was feeling really alone and I had to find a way to express myself more creatively. I never wrote anything until I wrote a memorial piece for my dear Mama's funeral. Then I got hooked and met so many wonderful women I haven't been able to stop. I sometimes feel like I have no style or theme like so many of the blogs I visit, but then I remind myself that I can just be myself and not put pressure on myself to be like anyone else. I find reading blogs where the writer is honest and willing to risk being exposed to be the most interesting for me to read.

Jennifer - I love this post!! But then again, I pretty much love all of your posts!! I suppose the reason I blog (besides because I love posting book reviews) is to have an "uninterrupted" forum where I can purge a few of my thoughts. Sometimes it's easier for me to sort things out and get them resolved if I've blogged about them. I completely understand your thoughts on journaling. I read back through my old journals, and so much of it is a re-churning of the same old repetitive stressors, weaknesses, and far to much…well…whining. I whine a LOT. And I see so much LACK OF TRUST in God in my journaling. I still do it sometimes, if I really need to work something through, but I resolved not to journal daily, like I used to, because I generally upset myself, mulling over a lot of problems I couldn't solve–problems outside my realm of control.

Now YOUR blog is fantastic. I love that you don't have one particular "niche" and that you write about so many different topics–BUT, the threads that hold each post together are that they are all FOR women, they are all REAL, they are all about CULTIVATION AND TENDING (whether it be of relationships, the home, beauty, healthy habits), and they are all centered around GOD. You are such an example, and your blog is such an inspiration to me!! It is uplifting. Even heart-wrenching posts are UPLIFTING. You EDIFY others, and that is a true gift!!! :)

So wow, WAY too long of a comment!! Sorry about that, but I started to gush!!! :D

Erin@ It's Grac - I sense desperation in your heart on this "I have a heart for women who’s hearts are hemorrhaging, women in abusive relationships and are locked in prisons of fear and do not know how and/or do not have the tools and support to live life fully. How to take care of themselves and their children. How to find healing for the lies that were laid down with the wounds." I strongly believe that when the time is right, God will unleash this in whatever means He sees fit. I think of Romans 8:28.

Why do I blog? I was asking myself the SAME thing today. Sometimes it feels like a chore, and I never wanted it to feel that way. I originally started for fun and a way to keep family in touch with what our family was up to. Then it re-ignited my passion for writing and story-telling and encouraging women, too. But now sometimes it feels like I have to do this. All that to say, I feel what's missing is a "schedule" or better organization on my part. Anyway, long winded answer :)

Praying for you..and wanting you to know you can do it.

Rachel - I blog as for self expression and to find community. I love that as added bonus I am inspiring others. It makes me really consider my posts and love reaching out to others in this unique way.

jill - You are couragous! Love that!! You are real, love that too:)

I really relate to this post and to you…

I first started to blog because of my art business(why I'm an artist is a whole other can of worms), but quickly and unexpectedly I started to witness to what God is doing in my life. I really blog to encourage and lift up.

Thanks for this post, you rock girl!

Jen Ferguson - Oh, where to start, Tiffini? I have to say that I agree with Erin and Amy. And I think this blog is about FREEDOM. Freedom in your life that will echo onto these pages. Perhaps this space is to be a reflection of the choices that you are making in your life — the choices that bring you closer to freedom, closer to Jesus.

I blog for the reason I posted on the top of my blog. Here it is:

Most days it is so easy for me to get bogged down in my reality, the tangible, day-to-day happenings that make up my life. Oh, but so much more is waiting for me if I would come and sit awhile with Him. No matter what situations seem to define my life, there is a piece of Heaven waiting for me – a place of peace, restoration, and comfort. Being in this world is hard. Daily struggles, tribulations, and people pulling us in all different directions can take a toll on our lives. Somehow, though, finding a piece of Heaven can give us a new outlook, a new purpose, and direction we may have never considered. Finding God in those quiet moments brings refreshment to our malnourished souls. I am not great at keeping a personal journal, but thought that I might be more willing to write down my revelations if someone else might respond. That's a good reason to blog, right?

Stephanie - oh girl, we couldn't be more on the same page. As I am moving my blog to wordpress, I am asking myself the same things. But…I just want you to know that, ummmmm, okay….I know you don't blog just for me….but on some days it feels like that, LOL! You are so gifted girl, education is not needed for God to use you! He has all the education in the world to pour out on you! I don't know what your niche is, but I know that what your are doing right now blesses me and womenen like me :)

Christy - I think every single blogger ask themselves this very same question. I know I did…you see I don't feel I have a niche…and it took me a while to be completely okay with that. I mean I could if I wanted too….single girl, Christian, randomness….but in the end they are all part of me and I don't want to settle into one niche….

I blog because I adore writing. When I sit down in front of my computer and hit compose I am at one with my heart and I cannot wait to see what God unveils. Even on those silly random posts I do at times…. I know He enjoys because He sees beauty in humor….and all things me….and YOU.

If I start seeing writing as a chore or something I don't want to do….I take a step back…I put up a little note and say I am on a blogging break…and I seek His Face even more…and my heart is refreshed and I come back….writing because I love it.

Just enjoy the time when it comes to compose and write with your heart… That is what makes this place so beautiful :)

Pamela - This is my first visit to your blog. I'm following from the Soli Deo Gloria. So I can't give you a solid answer for your question. I do know that God will guide you as you obey each step.

The reason I blog? Because encouragement is my life long passion. There's so much to be discouraged about. I want to make life more beautiful, more meaningful and more blessed for others. And I want to teach others how to encourage–that it doesn't take a lot of creativity or money. God was very definate when it was time for me to blog. And He bloomed the throught in my heart that it was to include my daughters. So we blog together and it brings more joy than I thought possible.

As a writer, my advice to you would be 'start the book." Don't worry about grammar, punctuation or spelling. Just write your heart. The other things can be fixed. People just want to hear your heart and from what I'm reading, your heart is very, very special.

Glenda Childers - I have been thinking about this myself this morning, Tiffini, after reading chapter 3 in Ann Voskamp’s One Thousand Gifts. A few quote that really got me today.

Martin Luther ” If you want to change the world, pick up your pen.”

John Piper ” there are eyes in pencils and in pens.”

And some guy I had never heard of ” To name a thing, in other words is to bless God for it and in it.”

I blog because life and words matter.

I blog to share my life with my liternal daughters and my spiritual daughters.

I blog to keep myself thinking.

I blog to make myself slow down and enjoy my life.

I blog beause it is fun.

Oh boy, I think I’d best write a post about this in the future.

Blessings on you as you figure out your place in blogging. I think what you describe is similiar to my blog . . . a lifestyle blog. So it isn’t focussed to just one thing . . . but anything from my life.

Are you enjoying the Blogging Your Way class?


Glenda Childers - P.S. Great comments today.


Courtney - This is a hard question – and one every blogger has to ask herself, constantly. I’ve always been told, “Write what you know.” You clearly know motherhood and relationships. You don’t have to have everything figured out to “know” it – but you’ve been there, you ARE there, and you have a lot to offer on those subjects. Others too. You’ve got to go where you feel God is leading you.

I started blogging to better embrace motherhood and domesticity. It has turned into a real spiritual journey for me, as I come to know myself and God better. I love blogging and it hasn’t turned into a chore – yet :) One thing that helps me tremendously is to have a schedule or a plan about what I will write. It gives me boundaries and guidance, so I don’t feel so completely overwhelmed. My schedule or “work week” is posted on my sidebar. I may change it up down the road, but having that guideline really helps me focus.

Good luck as you search for your answers. You’ll be in my prayers!

Shari - Ha ha! You're asking your readers, too…. I did that today! I haven't got as many as you do, but they've been emailing me to give me encouragement and ideas. It's pretty awesome!

I love your blog!! I actually said, "ooooo!" as soon as I checked it out! See you in class!

Melanie - i love your honesty in this post and i love how we don’t need a formal education or credentials to be used by God. Your heart and desire to reach out to women is truly beautiful and God will use that. Just share your heart here. Like you’re doing already. Your words will bless others. They’ve blessed me today.

Glad to be in this community with you.

eileen - I really enjoyed this post. I was attracted to your blog because I tend to gravitate toward other bloggers who are not afraid to talk about the hard things. Real authentic community is not always pretty and "perfect". I like the courage I see in your writing and your blog.

At first, I started to blog simply as a place to put all my writing. I started writing again about 2 years ago… after not writing for 15 or so years. My blog has slowly transformed. I have always felt a strong desire to share my story with others and perhaps inspire others in their walk with the Lord. Blogging has been such a blessing in my life. It's been such a great journey getting to know you and so many other bloggers!

BIg Fat Mama - I have felt this way so much too. Why am I blogging and where am I going with this. I had to turn my question around. Why is God having me blog and where is HE going with this? I just write what He puts on my mind, and then give it to Him and let Him take it where He wants it to go!

LLH Designs - Your niche is diving into the deep…naked! :) I love the way you throw off fear and strip off layers.

I started blogging as an extension of my business, but it’s morphed into something more personal. Not sure how long God wants me to stick with it. Finding the balance between real life and the blog world can be challenging at times. We’ll see where God leads. :)


Abby - oh…i love all of the love you are getting here and concur so much…and see this as the Lord’s embrace over YOU. YOUR STORY. The LOVE you pour and the kindredcy you foster with me and so i assume it’s like this with all who feel connected with you…

i don’t think you got to read my post yesterday (that’s fine:)!, it was long–about Chapter 6 of Ann’s book: “I want to see!”), but more of my story and ‘years locusts have eaten restored’ I think for US that is what this blogging journey is…

coming to life and pouring forth His story through the brokenness of our lives and these words redeeming and healing not only us, but through His story over our lives–those who He brings…this is Ann’s journey and i couldn’t think of any more beautiful blogger to share a core ‘blogging call’ with:) did you listen to/read her keynote from Relevant?

amanda - I loved reading your honest words in this post. I think there are so many bloggers who struggle w/ this. I certainly do. But there's a sweetness and a beauty in your writing voice.

Jodene Shaw - This is my first visit to your blog, and I relate very much to the desires and dreams that you have stirring in your heart. It was those same things that caused me to begin a blog…to start writing and sharing it with others. As you keep going forward, I think you will find more of your purpose with it ~ which will grow and change as you do. I started out writing some journals that had length and depth rooted in what God was showing me. I found that I kept waiting for these lengthy posts of profound things God was showing, and then discovered Him and sharing Him in the daily things of life and family, started sharing my photography, and my journey into art. So it is very different.

One resource you might find helpful is the book and workbook by Dan Allender, “To Be Told”. This helped me in writing some of my own stories.

I look forward to watching your blog and seeing your focus develop…

Thanks for stopping in today!
love & grace, jodi

Linda Lewis - The "why" is a big question for all of us who blog, and I think there are many answers. In many ways, it is just another form of journaling, but instead of the words being locked away, they are shared with others who will find you as they look for like "sisters". Your niche will become clearer to you, but right now you seem to be touching young moms who are struggling to find answers in their own lives. There's nothing wrong with that.

kerrie - I am new to your blog. I just found it this week! I do like your 'nakedness'. We are in similar situations with a half empty nest. I too have been Mothering/Homekeeping/Homeeducating for the past 22 yrs. of my life. For two years now I've been seeking God on what to do for the rest…He's been bringing some clarity lately…and I am at peace again. You can read more about that on my In The Quiet blog post 'Return', if you want. Anyways I just wanted to share that I am a beauty person too…I live my days 'beholding His beauty' Psalm 27:4. When I began blogging my focus was to 'give beauty'. It was for me just as much as others. I wanted a place of retreat to go to. I named my blog after my home 'Sea Cottage'. The sea is my favorite place to be in the whole world. It is where I feel closest to God. So over time(I've been blogging for four years now) my blog went in a sea-themed direction. The most comments I have received have been to tell me that my blog is a place of 'retreat' from the busy-ness of daily life. When I have wanted to give up, I am reminded of why I blog~ 'to give beauty'…this has kept me grounded and with purpose. I began my In The Quiet blog for a place of contemplation…it is more like my original blog. I am also in a place in my life where I am pursueing my art again so I have a blog for that too…Seawashed…it is more for me to keep my pursuit of art organized. As you can see I have always journaled too. I hope all of this helps in some small way. One thing that I have learned from the Blogging community is to blog for yourself…your blog is YOURS, so don't ever blog what you think others might want to hear about…blog for you and let what is in your heart flow forth. I am adding you to my blog list on both my Sea Cottage and In The Quiet blogs. I do love the name of your blog…'belonging'…the very heart of God.

Bina - Hello!!

I am new over here…popped over from Jen's place…and so very glad I did. I have struggled with trying to maintain the blog in the midst of spiritual and situational struggles…and yet, not matter how pulled I get from it, it never lasts as He always calls me back. I have found myself in my blog…the true parts of me that I don't often express to those around me. I have found God in it…realizing even as I am writing that He will spinning and weaving my story right before my eyes. I have found friends here…some of them so dear to my heart that I can't believe I "barely" know them.

I appreciate this post…and the follow up…very much.