choose & word women wednesday linkup


the lyrics of the song stir hard the heart.  even in the dark I know He is here.  i choose to believe.  the treasures of the dark He will show.  i pull my knees in harder to my chest squeezing tight the eyes.  i choose as one day rolls into the next and turns the seasons and the years and my hair is gray and deep longing settles.  the memories beckon like phantom beings swirling about my mind like and the fig tree bears no fruit that my naked eyes can see.  even though.  i choose.  not one foot until you come with me.  i will not go this time.  how will anyone know I am yours?  it is still night and they sang praises and the jail bars broke

the praises went before … the secret place i storm.  i beat hard.  i am tired.  and my sisters who grace drew walk beside me.  even in the dark glory..even in the dark..glory to God.  even if all else fails your faithful love will be enough. O Abba my little girl hearts cries out to grab His neck tight.  protect me.  He hears me and my heart is rent sore.  my Daddy loves me and thinks i’m beautiful.  in the dark He shows me.  light a deep fire in our hearts that we burn for you until you come.  i choose You.


After consulting the people, the king appointed singers to walk ahead of the army, singing to the Lord and praising him for his holy splendor. This is what they sang:

“Give thanks to the Lord;
his faithful love endures forever!”

At the very moment they began to sing and give praise, the Lord caused the armies of Ammon, Moab, and Mount Seir to start fighting among themselves.  { 2 Chronicles 20: 21& 22 }




ok ladies…go ahead and linkup.  The linky will be open until Thursday at midnight central time.  Please be sure to put a link back to here…the House of Belonging.  Visit here and there when you can.  Share the love.  I have a writing deadline and it is my first one so I am FULL of anxiety;) but I will get around to everyone I promise!  Thank you so much for being my friend. Happy Wednesday you precious Word women!

photo credit: my granddaughter’s piggies:)




Paula - For me, be it Christ, be it Christ hence to live:

If Jordan above me shall roll,

No pang shall be mine, for in death as in life

Thou wilt whisper Thy peace to my soul.

But, Lord, ’tis for Thee, for Thy coming we wait,

The sky, not the grave, is our goal;

Oh, trump of the angel! Oh, voice of the Lord!

Blessed hope, blessed rest of my soul!

And Lord, haste the day when my faith shall be sight,

The clouds be rolled back as a scroll;

The trump shall resound, and the Lord shall descend,

Even so, it is well with my soul.

When peace, like a river, attendeth my way,

When sorrows like sea billows roll;

Whatever my lot, Thou has taught me to say,

It is well, it is well, with my soul.


It is well, with my soul,

It is well, it is well, with my soul.

We sit and wait on the Lord all the while knowing our soul is well with the Lord. It makes the waiting easier. We are BLESSED by our Lord. It is well, it is well, with our Souls!!

Love to you!

Cha Cha - Love this post and love those toes.

Cha Cha

Heart n Soul - Hey Tiffini, yes amongst the business of life just taking a pause moment is a bit of a luxury….but so important to take the moment to ponder, reflect and contemplate.

misty - {heart}

Robyn Q - There is SO MUCH power in praise!! I'm being reminded of this again! Love these words, "it is still night and they sang praises and the jail bars broke". Praising, praising, praising….even in our nights. Love you. Be blessed.

Cindy - a writers deadline! How wonderful! God is bringing you right along…preparing the dreams…even in the midst of the "stop.turn.release" of the last few years…now you are refined; purified; molded in His hand and not by your own…

It is a beautiful thing to see unfold!

Blessings (and thank you for your always gracious words to me!)

Stephanie - Our hearts seem to be much in the same place :) I just wanna sop up more n more Jesus till all my icky flesh is gone!

Deidra - "not one foot until you come with me." This reminds me of the conversation in Exodus that Moses had with God. Where God said He'd had enough and He wouldn't be going any further with the Israelites. Moses sat there on the mountaintop and said, "Well if you're not going, I'm not going." What a moment that must have been!

Abby - Oh T,

You know I'm behind, with the traveling. Loving on you here and praying for you…thank you for your prayers. I trust that His care for us as we have stepped forward is encouraging you? I know it is drastically different, your circumstances, but He is the same, right? I am believing this for you–very, very much.

And thank you for asking about moving…I devoured the tips! esp. Glenda's…we will most definitely be packing together and while we wish we could all be together helping, it will help, to know you are packing where you are…many, many prayers and much love! Abby:)

Abby - so sorry…it said my comment wasn't posted and then did that crazy second one…sorry…I couldn't delete it, BUT PLEASE DO!

it’s in the choosing

Lately, I’m wanting to eat junk,  stay in bed and throw the covers over my head, thinking I’m fat, fighting not to listen to the lies whispered in my ear, looking more of what I don’t have than what I do have, I’m not praying enough, laundry piling high, deadlines, unknown answers, not wanting to exercise and it is a fact of life that the other shoe really does fall. when it rains it pours. and oftentimes things don’t ever change.

I just want to have a big ol’ pity party


but I choosing not to at least not today.  He’s told me to station myself and stand and that I don’t have to fight this battle.  He will. and I’m just a teensy bit unsettled about this.  I’m used to doing SOMETHING.  but I want to trust Him.  He desires me to.

I’ve got lots of things to share with you all.  I can’t wait to go visit everyone.  I’ve got a story brewing, pictures of grand babies to share, a cuff that I have been wearing everyday that I LOVE, my shop…but lots of life happening so I am just letting things be. but I am watching.

hands giving back in thanks that I can choose to change. Do you ever go through times where you have to be intentional in not falling into self pity?  or the battle intensifies when our hearts really desire God?

Please pray for Gabi Tomorrow she begins her second round of chemo.  She’s a fighter.  You can click on her picture up there in the right hand corner to read more…thank you thank you for your comments on moving.  They keep me moving forward.  Glenda – I got trash bags today:)

I am sharing words and heart with the SDG girls over at Finding Heaven….

Finding Heaven




Jen - Um, yes. the pity party is sometimes just a hop, skip, and a jump away. I can always complain about something, but hopefully, more often than not, I'm choosing to see the good.

I'm so excited about the new things in store. And you know, I was looking at your photos on FB the other day, thinking just how wonderful you are…beautiful inside and out.

Eileen - Those pity parties we often want to throw sure can be tempting some times…but once we see how unproductive they are and begin to make progress it's a good feeling :)

Amy Sullivan - Who me? Self-pity?

Oh, the sad thing is sometimes I induldge in a good pity party. Poor me, poor me. I find the hardest thing to do is actually leave the party, but once I'm moving again, I do ok.

Glenda Childers - You go, Tiffini. It is one step at a time that will get this done. Great job taking a small step today . . . getting bags to sort your stuff. I am really proud of you and praying.



Ps. An occasional ice cream helps, too.

Melanie - love this honest post! Oh yes, pity is a struggle…it's so easy to slip into complaining, and I need to cling to gratitude daily. Thanks for teaching me with your words!


Natalie at Mommy on - Oh my, girl. Do I ever.

Like right about now.

I have been doing Weight Watchers but fell off the wagon the past two weeks. I was feeling SO good and now I'm not. And I just ate a Cadbury Egg. Ack.

I often wallow a bit then realize what I'm hearing and succumbing to are lies. Simply lies.

I'm so grateful that our mercies are anew each day. Every day is a blank slate – isn't that such a beautiful thing?

So wonderful to visit you this evening. I've missed your sweet face.

Mrs. M. - Self-pity comes in droves when I realize that I am looking inward instead of outward.

I have been where you are. It is not an easy place to be…but allow Our Lord to work. He will not fail you.

Mrs. M.

Christy - It's always nice to know you are not alone in wanting to throw yourself a pity party.

I can choose change….I needed to read that today. :o)

Stephanie Clayton - Tiff! I got my sign today, posted a FB and Twitter pic!!!! LOVE IT!!!! You are so talented!!!

Pity…yes…sadness…yes…longing for things I can't have…yes!!! All of those things, right now, are part of the battle. Fighting with you dear sister!!!

Connie@raise your ey - Tiffini, you are so wise to see the pity party for what it is…name it and leave it:)you're right…it's in the choosing…choose to bless and praise…praying for Gabi

Michelle - The Pity Party! I sometimes think they're OK as long as they don't take more than 1 minute. :P Right now I'm standing with you waiting and trusting. Praying with you Tiffani for this time of patience.

Pamela - I imagine you won't find many who haven't thrown a huge pity party. Today I will keep my hands busy sewing an Easter dress for my granddaughter and working on a scrapbook for a friend's son. Unfortunatly at the same time my mind can still wander off. I'll put an audio Bible on so keep that from happening. And I'll pray for you, too.



Paula - Tif,

Choose JOY. You can find anything in the journey. Disappointment, sadness, downright meanness. I choose JOY. Look for the JOY. You may have to dig. Dig deep, turn over rocks, dust them off but find the JOY. Somehow, find the JOY. YOU can do this!

A dear friend of mine who had passed in her early 40's. Her baby daughter is pregnant with twin boys and lost one of the babies. She is carrying both babies to term. As I sit here with headaches, God laid it on my heart to make her sweet one that will be with her momma a little book for their hopes and dreams for him because they chose JOY. They never lost sight of God's plan for them. Constant joy.

Tiffini my sweet friend always choose JOY and bounce yourself out of bed even when you don't want to. That first bounce is the hardest, the rest are easy!!

Lots of love and prayers coming your way!!!

jenny - okay, i want to say many things, but i have exactly one hour to rest so i will be brief. LOVE the new look. are those pictures from your home/world? LOVE jamie oliver – just saw that link on your list. LOVE that, right now, in this season, you are choosing by not doing, by waiting, by trusting. two verses: isaiah 26:3 and isaiah 40:31 (NASB version).

Debbie - I've been feeling like that a lot lately. Waiting for it to pass is hard. I just hit the reset button, get some rest and stop expecting so much from myself. It helps. Blessings!

Nancy - Yes, it is in the choosing but sometimes the choosing feels like an epic battle. It is easy to descend into pity, hard to elevate thoughts and emotions. So thankful for grace and the power of the Holy Spirit or I fear I would spend far too many days with the covers pulled up over my head.

misty - So true about those pity parties! We just can't! such wisdom you have!

Courtney - Yes! Always have to be intentional to avoid a big old pity party. I can get so short sited, but I'm convinced that is the devil trying to take my focus off God. Good for you for being intentional and focused. Doesn't it feel good to just rest in God?

Michelle DeRusha - Oh I hear you on this, I do. I fight the urge the do, do, do — and yes, I fall prey to the big fat pity party, too. And usually I realize it's in the midst of a spiritually dry period, when I've been sleeping in instead of having time with God in prayer and the Bible in the morning. Those mornings keep me grounded…just tonight I resolved to my husband that I need to get back into that routine…

Gaby - I think I would place top ten in a pity party contest. At least in the top twenty. My poor husband says that I go through a pity crisis every six months. I feel them coming and the praying begins. You are not alone!

marlece - Hey Tiffini, I just finished reading thru several of your posts. It looks like you could really be going thru some difficult times right now and that would certainly bring on a party of pity. It sounds like you know the remedy for this though and Jesus will take you away from it every time. Hang in there!

You asked me if I run…yes I do, and you?

any advice on moving?

I would love some H E L P

I want to share just enough with my friends because the weeks and months ahead are going to be rocky and I know I will want and need support to stay strong and choose health and not dysfunction. Healthy support. My husband and I are separating at the end of May.  I don’t want the focus to be on that but just so you might know where things are coming from in the next months.

amuse-bouches:  Photo: Minna Mercke Schmidt

photo credit here

I know it’s Sunday ya’ll and I usually don’t post much but I am becoming dangerously overwhelmed at getting this house ready to move.

We are going from a 4 bedroom home to two bedroom.  Major downsize yes?

Does anyone have some helpful ideas that you might have used when you moved?

A check list for me from now until the end of May maybe?:)

I would covet some prayer also for a little cottage business I am trying to start at the same time.

OK…I am looking forward to lots good suggestions to get me going…I will start with thanksgiving…

all my girls standing in a circle with me…I have some God miracles to share from these women praying for me and the kids!

Happy Sunday~


Robyn Q - Of course you are going to be covered in prayer,lady! God's got this and I know you know how He brings the most beautiful from barren, the extra ordinary from plain, and death to abundant life! I hear your praises & I read your thanksgiving. Your heart is ever growing.
I know the weariness of the road ahead. The the things you fear with be the things you conquer. The unexpected will surprise you & only God can sustain for those times that sting. Keep relying on the ones He sends to protect you.
As for the practical side of the move: Less is MORE. Don't give any THING too much emotion. Remember the needs of the kids won't always match your needs in terms of stuff. Let them choose what is important. There will be grief and grief is a process of its own. Finally, logic doesn't always win.
Be blessed my friend! Wish I could tape some boxes with you today.

kerrie - Happy Birthday. I did not realize we were so close in age. I am a year older than you. Moving…it's hard. I'm a very organized person, I pack way ahead of time, I have lists, I label everything. When we moved to Sea Cottage 4 yrs. ago, my health was still fragile. I was so stressed about the move because I my immune system was so weak and I was afraid. My advice would be to be prepared that it will take you a while to adjust. It took me four months to adjust. I was very sick from the stress and it took that long to recover and feel at home. Try to be careful not to do too much of things that you really can't. Take care of yourself. Remain clinging to your Beloved Lord's wounded side. Trust in his grace. It is sufficient. Continue to lean on him, and learn from him, for he is gentle and lowly of heart. His yoke is easy, his burden is light. Always remember that you are NOT alone.

Eileen - Tiffini, You will definitely be in my prayers as well. I agree with what Robyn said. When you are faced with a challenging time like this you really have to focus on what is truly important and not get overwhelmed with the details. Will pray God will continue to give you and your family wisdom and discernment.

Janet - Hello,

I know that feeling of being overwhelmed. We had to move a few years ago from an apartment we lived in for 20 years, and we are hoarders!

The best advice I can give is to throw things out RUTHLESSLY. If you hesitate for a moment about whether to throw it out, toss it, or give it away to charity. We gave bags and bags away to the Salvation Army – clothes that no longer fit me, that I insisted on holding onto.

I was actually so sure that I could not get this moving task done (we were told to get out in one month because the landlord's son needed the apartment) that I prayed to my angels to help me. To this day, I credit them with my being able to leave in four weeks.

I'll pray for you,


Glenda Childers - Dearest ~ You are facing so many things at once. I am praying.

I am really good at downsizing. Wish I could come help. I just did this for our family when we moved. A few hints:

l. Buy lots of large black garbage bags.

2. Start today – a few drawers, a closet, a small room.

3. Keep only the things you dearly love or are very useful.

4. Each night, take the bags you sorted that day . . . to the Good will. Get them out of your house.

5. Have your kids choose some of their favorite things to pack, so they don't get nervous that everything is going away.

6. I read a book or two from the library on moving.

7. If you can, do it when the kids aren't home.

8. It is great if a friend can help – it is easier for them to say – don't keep that.

9. Pack and label the things you are are keeping. I label by what room they will go in. Have a distinct place for keepers – so you don't accidentally throw something away.

10. Take lots of breaks, drink lots of water and tea and eat healthy food. You need the energy.

I am praying over your household this month.



Stephanie - So I am not even going to begin to offer moving tips…becuase I am certain that I am the worst!!!!! at moving! However, this girl can pray and love on you for sure. Praying peace that surpasses all understanding in this time of change, calm amidst the storm, and beautiful gifts along the way that encourage you to know you are doing the right thing.

Wendy D - I am praying for you. Though I haven't "known" you here for very long, I do wish I could help you pack. I have been through a divorce myself and I know the pain.

I don't have many tips on moving. Just label every box! It makes it much simpler and you won't be as overwhelmed.

When I moved my things out after my divorce, I didn't take much time to consider what I was doing. I kept stuff that brought back bad memories later on and I irrationallly got rid of stuff I regretted as well. It's difficult to move during the time you're dealing with a divorce. My biggest advice is to try to look at everything objectively. I was so disgusted with the divorce that I sold my couch to the first person who asked. Did I think about maybe needing one when I got a place of my own? Nope…I was irrational.

Jen - Glenda really rocks, yes? You know I'm praying for you and my only piece of advice is to hold everything loosely — plans, schedules, material goods. What I mean by that, is hold them with open palms.

Amy Sullivan - T,

As a girl who moved tons and tons in my life . . .let the unimportant go. Thinking about you loads right now.

Debbie Shull - I am so sorry Tiffini! I know you don't want that to be the focus, but I want you to know that I will be praying for you and G, D and N.

This is a good time to weed out anything you haven't used in 6-12 months and keep only what's important.

Many prayers to you!


misty - I am a stellar mover! I am so organized that moving really is a PIECE of cake for me… If you honestly need help, or an outline of sorts- I would love to help! :)

Michele - So sorry to hear about your divorce. Hearing of yours bring the pain of mine back fresh to my memory. Theres been lots of good advice already, but I'd concur with labeling really well. There will be boxes that dont get unpacked for a while and so even longer. It'll be nice to scan the boxes and know whats in them. I rpinted labels with each of the kids names and also room names and then handwrote the details of the contents.

I wish you as quick as healing as is possible and Gods love through all of this. Stay close to Him.

Jennifer - I wish I had some tips! Though I have moved… I don't think I have ever done it in an organized fashion. lol But I want you to know you will be in my prayers. You, your family, and your business! :)

the day that turns 42 into 43

The power of finding beauty in the humblest things makes home happy and life lovely.
Louisa May Alcott

for a day that turns 42 into 43 the creator’s creation was all singing the sun up bright and i kneel and give thanks


or gifts aimed right smack dab into the middle of a mama’s heart

Son told dad he said he knew exactly what i want to get me..every time she goes to the mall she sprays it on AND the other one whispered out of a hurt heart that I didn’t get to pick the gift out so writing my heart in green and putting in 1.00 from my savings.  if you know grace that was generous:)

This is the candle I have been lighting every morning in thanksgiving.  I have been doing the Trail to the Tree from Ann Voscamp and she said somewhere in there about lighting a candle.  I have been practicing this and it has helped me to focus my thoughts first thing to thanksgiving.  The story behind the candle is a reason for thanksgiving in and of itself.

Grace & Evan enjoying their yogurt..

for tart frozen yogurt with strawberries, waffle cone chips & a heaping spoonful of chocolate chips

Ugly beautiful … sometimes we are in the midst of ugly and we have to purposefully look for the beauty even when we don’t feel like it. Ever been in a season like that? I can share with you from experience that beautiful things really will and do happen when I’ve begun to trust God.  More on this another time because I used to think I was trusting God and I would have argued anyone that said I wasn’t.  But I wasn’t.

for daughter’s knowing how I adore peanut butter cups when choosing..and I ate every last bite…even after I ate all my yogurtini…yikes! I’m not getting on the scale anytime soon.

this gift..I love. I am not a jewelry wearing girl either.  I’m basic..almost plain.  I don’t like drawing attention to myself with big earrings, bracelets & necklaces but when I fall in love with something…it is hard and forever.  I LOVE my watch.

I’m NOT a perfume wearing girl..I like lotion.  Why?  I haven’t ever been able to find a smell that is ME.  I used to wear Eternity 15 years ago until morning sickness made me stop.  To this day the smell still makes me want to throw up. This smell makes me feel powerful!

this is taped to my back door…her heart colors words for me as visible reminders to live by

for the choice of nori or soy..i choose soy

for black that is slowly turning to color

for the incense of saint sisters praying on our behalf and the answers falling down like rain

for an upcoming year of fabulous…even when putting on foot infront of the other on a bed of cracked dirt…

the gift of learning to live out of the secret treasures of darkness

for my sweet soul sister who listens to my rawness all jumbled & takes me for a pedicure and makes me choose what to do..and we did and it was good

On one of my memorial stones is written 43 and laid it down in rememberance.  a stone   on this crossing over…the 42 has stopped running..going from running away to running to love..falling in love with as many things as possible..running to the only One who doesn’t run

here’s to years time     life is good

A new friend to me is Joybird who is chronicling Late to Lent.  I also am loving the depth of Kelly’s heart…I see pieces of my own daily struggle in the midst of her words.  I happened upon Farmhouse from Kelly that I found through Emily’s @ Imperfect Prose.  So I have met many new friends this last week.  Praying you see all the gifts He is giving you this Saturday…now on  my way to shower and go take some photo’s of our towns Art & Crafts Fair to submit to the paper…scary!




paige - well happy birthday!!

yummy cupcake

the d&g lotion i'm certain is wonderful

fun watch too!!

have a wonderful weekend celebrating


Glenda Childers - Looks like you were well celebrated.



Paula - Oh Missy,

What a day for you!

You, My Friend, ARE a Blessed Woman!!

Happy New Year, Starting Now!!


kristin - We were celebrating my 7 year old's b day today!!
I always love visiting your blog! I hope you have been feeling well lately! XO

misty - What a beautiful array of such happy things! Happy belated day to you! :)

Midwest Magnolia - M - Well, Happy Birthday! So glad you had such a blessed day:)

word women wednesday & a healed marriage


Happy Word Women Wednesday to all you beautiful women! The birds are singing songs of praise already and it is still dark outside. Singing in the dark….hhuumm. Please open your hearts to sweet Wendy. I met her through Sibi’s post last Wednesday.  Wendy has a heart to share her testimony of how God healed their marriage.  Won’t you please show her some love and above all offer thanks to the ONEthe only ONE who can truly heal hearts yes?:) You can visit Wendy @ her blog A Daily Dose of  Del Signore **  I apologize for the layout of this post.  I copied it and every time I save it it runs sentences together etc…grateful for crazy computers:)

Have you ever had one of those days that a million thoughts are floating through your mind? The things you want to say, but don’t have the courage to display for the world? You worry about who will read it or if they will judge you. Then again, you are certain there will be a couple who do! There are some things others desperately need to hear, but you’re not sure you are actually brave enough to spell it out to them.
I’m having one of those days…..
I see people around me letting their marriages fall apart. They do absolutely nothing to save them. Or maybe they don’t know where to start. Maybe they feel hopeless and think their specific situation is beyond repair. My heart hurts for these people because it doesn’t have to be this way.
“For nothing is impossible with God”
~ Luke 1:37

I’ve hinted of the fact that Ryan and I are building an amazing testimony of how the Lord has worked miracles in our lives, individually and together. He’s not even close to being done! Every day God shows us something new in our marriage and in ourselves. What I want you to see is the progress we have made.
If I told you we almost called it quits, would you believe we’ve made it this far?
To be honest with you, there were times I just knew we wouldn’t make it.
God showed me how wrong I was.
The Lord wanted nothing more than to see our marriage work.
That’s how He designed it!
In the past (before we let God have control of our marriage) I tried to “fix” Ryan’s problems. Somehow or another, I thought I knew what was best for him. Did I stop to look at anything wrong with myself?
Heck, no! I was as close to perfect as it got! <– You may insert as much sarcasm as possible here!
First of all, shame on me! The things I was working on changing in my husband were the things that made him who he was. He is such a wonderful, good hearted man. What the heck was wrong with me???
Second, God doesn’t make mistakes and He sure didn’t start with my husband!
I’m not saying Ryan was perfect in this whole equation, but I wasn’t making anything easy on us either!
We didn’t stop to embrace what made us amazing together. We just saw the little flaws….
We didn’t stop to think about the promises we made to each other and to God.
We had a non-traditional family, a baby, and loads of stress piling up from every angle. It seemed like every time we turned around there was something else putting a strain on our marriage (Have you seen our renovation struggles? Ha!).
In all seriousness, I honestly believe we have been through more marital strain in our almost four years of marriage than your average ten year old marriage.
So what did we do? We kept on trying to fix things ourselves and keep everything hush-hush from our family and friends. I tried to medicate my problems away with hormones designed to fix hormones. I read book after book that guaranteed a way to fix our marriage. I talked until I was hoarse about what each expert said and what we should be doing.
Looking back, all I can say is, “What a joke!!!!”
All this led to was frustration when it didn’t work.
Guys, I wasn’t raised this way!
One thing my mother always taught me was to turn things over to the Lord.
Why couldn’t I do this????
It’s such a no brainer, simple concept.
Did I not trust the God that ensured my very own salvation to be able to save my marriage?
To this day, I cannot explain what held me back.

I was such a fool!

Looking back now, there was a specific breaking point for us.
There came a time that two of the closest people to us saw what we had kept hidden.
These people could have helped us long ago had we just asked for it.
Not only did they give us methods to cope with some of the strain of outside forces, but they shared the most important coping method:
Allowing God to come into our lives and marriage!

Ryan and I both were Christians already, but we chose right then and there to give all of our worries, issues, and struggles to God.
That right there is what it’s all about!
The weight of the world was lifted from our shoulders.
God will provide every single time!

He surrounded us with His unconditional love and took care of us.
He healed our hearts, strengthed the bond between us, and showed us a much better way to live. 

The first thing I noticed was that God opened my eyes to my own faults and gave me a better heart to accept and truly love my husband. I walked away from all self-help books but one ~ The Bible. I stopped all medications and low and behold, my hormones acted better than they had since I was a teen! I prayed before I talked about touchy subjects between us.
I am so thankful we traveled this road together. I wouldn’t change a thing about it because I am here now telling you how great my God is.

I have come back to the unpublished version of this post several times. The whole time I prayed that God would give me strength to share this with you all. Not to brag at all, but to give hope. I know that if I am able to hit “Publish Post” on here, I can maybe inspire someone to stick it out. Ryan and I didn’t have the model marriage, but we make it work every single day. God is still working with us. We are very far from being “done”.
God has made it all possible!
The biggest thing I have learned through this process is that God has shown me love and mercy when I least deserve it. It never ceases to amaze me. I have done so much wrong, He forgave it all.

If you have some words of hope, encouragement or just a story to share please link your exact URL below. I will leave the linky open until Thursday @ 11:59 pm central.
Please go visit each other and leave a word or two to sharpen others would you?:) and if you will leave a link back to the House of Belonging.  Thank you so much sweet, sweet friends!


Eileen - Beautiful! Thank your for sharing your story with us. I am not sure why it is so hard to turn our marriage difficulties over to the Lord. Sometimes, I think people wait until their hearts check out. Emotionally they left the marriage long before they actually say anything. So glad you and your husband had the wisdom to communicate and seek Him!

Jen - I read this last week at Wendy's place. What a testimony of hope and restoration.

Becky @ Farmgirl Pai - Sweet story of a fight worth fighting. He does come through every single time. Thank you for being brave and hitting that enter button!

Mom - I have always suggested to you, that the words and answers were right in front of you. Open the Bible and the words are there. Ask and you shall receive. He answers us. Sometimes it may take a little longer than what we would like, but his answers do come. So happy for this change. Love, Mom

tkilgore - Girls – I will be coming around tonight to visit all the linkups. I have a gazillion errands today I just don't want ya thinking I'm not coming;)xo

Cindy - I am so glad you shared! It is hard to be vulnerable, open, and honest and maybe especially when you are sharing about such an intimate subject as a marriage! But this is so inspiring…

misty - Marriage is so hard… everytime I see young and unprepared kids heading that way I feel such a rush of bittersweet for them…

Thank you for sharing your story… :)

Pamela - What a beautiful story! It thrills my heart to see young couples work through the hard times and glorify God with what He has done through them.


Robyn Q - Yea! Praise party! So glad you are sharing your story. I love how you talk about the difference it makes allowing others into your life to help. Kingdom living is never about going it alone it's about relationship. Continue to be blessed. God is so good!

Jen - I love hearing and seeing the freedom that comes from sharing with others and letting God use them in our lives. Marriage is definitely a commitment but I so recognize how God never intended for us to live the Christian life alone. Thanks for sharing!

Stephanie - What a beautiful story of restoration. I cannot tell you how many times me and my hubby came close to calling it quites. We both now say all the time that if it wasn't for Jesus, we would not be married still. He is one awesome Savior and Healer!

Courtney - Wendy – Bravo to you for sharing your story! I am inspired and I know others are, too.

brian - thanks for te wonderful comment today and for sharing your story…it was ministering really…relationships are not for the faint of heart…they take work…but the right kind…sounds like you are on a good road now…