honestly? i have been wearing many hats lately. running a business..growing it..is lots and lots of hard work
i am learning it is blood sweat and tears on my part and then letting God do His part
which means the down time i do have is usually spent answering etsy convo’s..planning the next days workload and putting something in my mouth to eat…cleaning house .. oh and i do find time to eat Mexican with my mom and girls!! i love Mexican food!!
it leaves little time to peruse my favorite blogs and leave comments
answering back comments on my own blog all of which i miss terribly!!
but you know–it is part of growth. it is a season. for me..i know i cannot do everything- we aren’t meant to.
i can only do so many things and do them well so some things have to be set aside for a time. and i am learning not to feel false guilt
or take on pressure that isn’t mine to take…you know?
and that is ok!
and honestly… i passionately love what i am doing and where i am at right now
i feel like i have been given a second chance in life..i am feeling better and stronger than i have felt in years
it has been a year april 28 since i had major surgery having my colon removed and a colostomy bag. since then, i had another surgery to create a new pouch that takes the place of my rectum made out of my small intestine ( crazy right ) and then april 21 i will have the last and final surgery where they will hook it up and remove the bag. while i am beyond grateful for this process, having a bag has been…life-alteringly HARD!! and while i am super duper excited to not have a bag i am aware there will be some months of healing and adjusting to the new way of doing things. it will be hard. but I AM READY:)
i will never be “normal” again. there will be things i won’t be able to eat. there are some issues that pop up with jpouch’s and energy levels always seem to be an issue and dehydrating but being on this side of severe ulcerative colitis and having such a poor quality of life i will take this anyday!!
God has been my rock..my strength. He chose me for my weakness…it has been through these hard places that i am willing to be teachable, by His grace, to be taken deeper into trusting Him
giving Him a real chance to prove Himself to me
i am trying to learn everything i can from this experience and one thing i have been practicing is LIVING BRAVE!
to STOP DOING WHAT ISN’T WORKING..and figuring out why i keep going back
creating a new future – living day-tight as mark batterson says:)
nikki and i have so many things coming up–i have some fun news that i will share soon too:)
all of this being said
PLEASE know i think of you all often. i do! it is the way i am made. i know those of you who pray with me..and for me and encourage me are part of the reason i am this far in the journey. i am SO looking forward to the next part of the adventure–and i think it really will be an adventure!!
if i am to tell my story…i have to be at that place to help others get out…so this season of my life is part of that story
it is part of what i am to teach but i have to “live” it first…does that make sense?
ok…now for the winner!
we had 313 comments and random number generator choose 105
Ashley – ashmcferrin on ig –
i asked ONE thing you want to do this summer and Ashley said, ” my kids have been begging to go fishing for the first time… so this summer i want to go fishing!….have fun Ashley..fishing is one of summers highlights:)…xo
whoo hoo girlie!! email me at email@example.com with your address and it is boxed and ready to come home:)
i am dropping the tailgate down…jump up…let’s talk
i’ll share my heart tiffini style…( making no sense..ha!)
then i want to listen to yours…that is what we would do if we were together today..
we’ll start the week off on the deep end and then end it on a lighter note…
the GIVEAWAY is at the end of the post..i will never know you don’t read a word…xo
i have been working on taking back my life and i am giving it to the One who can put all the pieces together again
i stand before the One who knows all of me
i can hide nothing from Him
pieces of my broken self is dying off so the new me can rise up from the fire
i can’t get back the years
i can’t make up for it all by sacrificing myself .. punishing myself
i’ve spent so many years trying to make my fairy tale life come true
you know when you grow up without a daddy you seek love from all the wrong places
you can manipulate someone into staying with you so you can create that perfect family with until
one day you wake up in survival mode desperately trying to bail the water out of the lifeboat
but the water is pouring in faster than you can bail it out..there are 5 kids and you
and only 5 life preservers…who is sacrificed today..the water rises even more toxic
i ultimately stayed in a relationship that i thought was giving my kids what i never had but it was a lie..
laying them on the altar and sacrificing them and me while eroding our hearts from the inside out
i can’t change someone else. i tried
it really comes down to owning my story by changing myself
i am learning that owning the story also means i can write new chapters
i can change the characters
i can create a new plot
i am not powerless
i am not a victim
i am not helpless
all those stories i tell myself about myselfare FEARS!!
they are lies that keep me living a life in circles
always going back when i step to far out in to spaciousness and freedom
and you begin to create life preservers..for everyone..but most importantly..yourself
i have waited for years for “change”
i have lived years accepting responsibility for stuff that was not mine really believing it was
and this wasn’t the only relationship i do this with
come to find out “taking responsibility for others” is something i do as easily as i breathe”
so i have allowed God room to work in my heart. to radically change me. i am a rebel at heart
i always have been i guess
maybe a little david..a little peter
i am learning to submit all of me to Him..to use what is weak
for His glory so that my weakness are saturated in His Power
and in so many ways and on so many levels
what i’m doing “feels” so wrong and i am learning to not live on feelings but in faith
new territory remember? never been this way before…
but deep in my soul
i believe there are slaves in captivity…in eygpt
that need to be led out of captivity into the promised land
i have decided to be a jesus follower..not a “christian” or a “religious” person
it is time to break the chains forage a new land
walls are crumbling…His wind words are burning inside hearts
i can feel them blowing all around me as i am taking back my life
in grace and truth
you want to know what i am finding as i am taking back my life?
i was broken and bruised
out of the ashes i am burning like a fire
all the pain and the truth
i wear like a battle wound
so ashamed and confused
i am not broken or bruised
now i am a warrior
i have thicker skin
i am a warrior ( you are more than a conqueror )
i am stronger than i’ve ever been ( when i am weak – He is strong = i am God-strong
my honor is made of steel ( i have the armor to put on )
you can’t get in ( because i am surrounded by favor from the one who is fire in the bush )
you can never hurt me (
there is a part of me i can’t get back ( now you are a reborn into a new life )
a little girl grew up to fast
nothing left you can say
cause you were never going to take the blame anyway
it is time to stop waiting ( move forward )
i have seen so many people die in waiting!
they wait their whole life away
leave us alone here in egypt – we’re better off as slaves in egypt than as corpses in the wilderness exodus 14: 12
going back to what doesn’t work BUT we know it inside and out don’t we?
it is comfortable
it is our safety net..
we take 10 steps in and the ground quakes with approaching giants
a finger pushes hard into our deepest fears
what are we going to do?
how hungry are we?
the red sea scene is filled with passion!
God’s people being so afraid!!
but taking God at His word
ought we to do the same?
the above is being a jesus follower…not 60 minutes on sunday
it is living the Word out in everyday real life
it is galations 5:25-25!
Since this is the kind of life we have chosen, the life of the Spirit, let us make sure that we do not just hold it as an idea in our heads or a sentiment in our hearts, but work out its implications in every detail of our lives. That means we will not compare ourselves with each other as if one of us were better and another worse. We have far more interesting things to do with our lives. Each of us is an original
what is engaging 60 minutes a week and then live a life that is no different than the world?
i ask myself these same questions!
the choice can go something like this
are you going to stay sick or do you want to be healed and made whole?
abba showed me something last week as i was having a hard morning and i couldn’t put my finger on it. i left the house for work with a to do list running long in my mind which turned into a heavy weight and hot irritation
and it sends you straight over the edge at one bump
so anyway – i was driving down the road with no radio cause sometimes it it to much noise for my head and i wanted “still”
and here is what i heard
daughter, why are you carrying it? it is MY WORK and you are carrying the whole weight of it as if it was YOURS
what? i was momentarily stunned
wouldn’t you know the first giant i meet is my deepest fear
the bulls eye at the core of my insecurity
BAM! just like that
so naturally i grab hold of it and start controlling it as if i can…
but God already went before me right? remember He tells us that
so He put the circle maker and now all in…in my path
not a coincidence btw…
it is helping to connect the dots i always ask for God to help me understand HOW TO “do” His word HOW does that look in real life…i so often don’t understand at first
how do i take those pieces of verses and change me…
so what was i doing?
i started worrying about how i was going to do all of it
there is a whole other part of this story i can’t share of course
suffice it to say
we are in the thick of it and it is coming down to the one question i have feared for years
it is being narrowed down
God and me
though He slay me YET will i praise Him
so i gave it back…and again and again
it is His work
He can handle it
it is way bigger than i could ever dream
so i am circling my jerico
praying for wisdom
trying to bridle my hurt-anger
standing on the promise that
God will fight the battle for me while i am inwardly STILL!!
we can throw the word brave and courage around like candy..much like i’m sorry and i love you
but when the pestle of life relentlessly grounds you round and round…squeezing out all the fear down to the raw meat
it can get bloody real
what about you? do you feel like this sometimes too?
are you going to give me a chance to prove myself to you daughter? love, abba
THIS is my loaded question today..
it’s time to burn the plow no looking back..no more living there..no more egypt
no more slavery
go to ourinstagram feed and enter to win our new 24″ x 48″ FIERCE sign!! instagram post will go live around 6:30 cst..
tell us ONE thing you want to do this summer and the WINNER will be announced in wednesdays post…xoxo
i needed to be encouraged…and i thought just maybe YOU did too
maybe your THIS is cancer, divorce, rejection, discouragement, depression, loneliness, or something so terrible it shouts but remains unnamed? whatever is pounding loudly in your mind, your body, your soul, let me…let US be YOUR balcony person today..yes?
let me hug you with my words. let me wallpaper your soul to mine. let me encourage you to sing God’s song, and let me remind you that the song in YOU is His idea
hear me when i say the apostle paul did not lie when he wrote, ” long ago, even before He made the world, God CHOSE .. US! me and you..to be His very own
i’m leaning way, way over your balcony railing; i’m waving my coat above my head, and i’m yelling above the frightening noises of your world, ” i love you! i believe in you and your abilities! you can do it! keep at it! keep on!! He’s here beside me..our Abba..and He’s beaming with delight in YOU! yes, that’s right, He’s here, and He’s not sitting down
YOU are His child, He is your father. His coat is off too, and we are both in your balcony cheering YOU on together!! –excerpt from balcony people by joyce heatherley
wasn’t that good? i want to that kind of balcony person. and i need balcony people
i have struggled this week with something and through a song God reminded me that i am standing with an army
that i am not alone
that i just have to look around…and look up
there really are people in my balcony..cheering me on and up
rooting for me
and friend…look around…look up
i’m waving my hoodie for you!! with tears streaming down my face
i am cheering you on…YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE IT
when nikki & i saw these words we knew we had to create a tshirt
all of the items in the shop are inspired and pulled from our life
here is part of our mission statement i felt led to write one night
i want to make it into a sign for the shop–God’s shop
it is a joy and a gift to do what we do and we are humbled..truly
at your support of our business but more than that..of our hearts
in the words of ann voscamp
all is grace
thank you for sharing your adventures with us
it was awesome to read each one!!
the winner of the circle maker book is kahra!! number 21! email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with your address and i will have it mailed right out to you
ps..i wish i could send you tickets to paris too…don’t quit your daydream…layla @letteredcottage
i am really wanting to keep the walls and main things really neutral and then add color in changeable places
cause i amprone to change…
as far as the main paint color it chose us
we painted several squares of each color
glass of milk – martha stewart
swiss coffee – benjamin moore
classic grey – benjamin moore
in the kitchen, living room and all three girls bedrooms
then we just lived with it for a couple of weeks. letting the light from sunrise to sunset fall on it
the house chose the color really..
classic grey won out much to my delight
we are loving how the light from the big windows washes the whole house with a happy glow!
i love coming home now..and that my friends is what paint color is all about…it is a cheap albeit laborious antidepressant!
now for my latest favorite read & a giveaway
i can’t tell you how much i loved the circle maker..so much so that i want to share one with YOU!!
if you’ve already read it .. enter anyway and give it to someone. it could be a life changer for someone..or YOU:)
all you have to do to enter is:
if you could run away tomorrow on ANY ADVENTURE…where would you go?
leave it in the comments below and we will announce the winner in the next post!
i want to leave you with rodney “gypsy” smith words from the book that wouldn’t leave me..and i pray they won’t leave you either that they will MOVE us to draw a circle around our ourselves…
gypsy’s secret was revealed to a delegation of revival seekers, who asked him how God could use them, just as He was using gypsy. without hesitation, gypsy said, “go home. lock yourself in your room. kneel down in the middle of the floor, and with a piece of chalk draw a circle around yourself. there on your knees, pray fervently and brokenly that God would start a revival within that chalk circle
oh abba…burn in our hearts…set us on fire from deep within to be your followers from this day forward
no longer religious rule followers…
raise up original jesus followers such as have never been seen before in our country…
we got a lot accomplished this weekend like making our menu and shopping for it
picked another color to try on our walls
we cleaned a lot
we purchased some things to make a few really awesome projects…hoping so anyway…:)
ate with family…always FUN:) food…i love food
what did you do?
here is my dilemma today: i am a hard core runner!
i have some peter in me…i will not deny you jesus….i get ya peter…i do!!
not the kind that pounds the pavement however…although pavement has come into play
i am a runner aheader : the runner that when things are moving forward at an alarming rate i go just keep going without stopping to ask for directions
which has been known to find me hurled headlong INTO the pavement..only to come up bruised and bloody…ick!
nowadays — whether i really am wiser or i am just 45…you be the judge
i am more comfortable with acknowledging that while these tendencies can and are be usedfor awesome things
many time they have gotten me ahead of God
so this morning when i was aroused from my fitful sleep at 3:30 am…i thought i might as well grab a cup of coffee
and have a conversation with my abba
i told you here that i had been steeping in these verses ( yes, instead of running all over in the bible like i can do….this must be a tendency of mine…ha)
so i went to those verses AND read the rest of colossians…which btw i am really identifying with. i think i might begin to memorize it…anyway
after all of that…writing in my journal things that were impressed on my heart – i turned to joshua and there i read
joshua was up early and on his way from shittim with all the people of israel with him. he arrived at he jordan and camped before crossing over. after three days, leaders went through the camp and gave out orders to the people: “when you see the covenant-chest of God, your God, carried by the levitical priests, start moving. follow it. make sure you keep a proper distance between you and it, about half a mile–be sure now to keep your distance!-and you’ll clearly see the route to take. TIFFINI YOU have NEVER been this way before!! — joshua 3:1-4
ok..was that something i need to listen to? to DO something with…well i think so!!
there is lots of action words here FOLLOW..start MOVING…i have been listening and moving–following when i feel God showing me too…but the reminder here..for me anyways
is to follow far enough behind God to be able to see which way He is showing me to go
REMEMBER - i have NEVER been this way before. this is all new territory for me and i still feel like this picture!!
isn’t that awesome? abba knows this about me and He knows i want to grow in this area
learn HOW to bridle this FIRE…does that make sense? ok…hope so:)
it’s monday..yep and today i am going to practice rest. not a static thing..i see it as a steady rhythm–moving through my busy day but instead of having my eyes to the grindstone i want to be focused upward and outward…ALERT to where abba is working..where i might need to take the next turn. just a restful moving through a monday..
what about your monday? do you have a tendency to plunge in and not stop to see where the next step maybe? what kind of runner are you…wink:)
next we are going to talk about paint colors and projects…and i laugh…cause God always is up to something right?